Never been in a marriage. But I think if you spend 24/7 with the same person over and over and there's no time to have space/reflect like in a bf/gf situation - the sex dies. It could also be the passion thing too cause you get to see that woman or man use the bathroom, undress, etc. It's not mysterious or romantic anymore.
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I'm curious, Do you believe a couple after being together for 18 years would still have sex 2 or 3 times a week?
Yes.
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now throw in 4 young kids ages 7-13, full-time job, huge house. Do you think it would still be 2 or 3 times a week?
Still yes.
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If so, would the woman do it, just to please her man? or would she enjoy it.
I'm sure there are a myriad of reasons why any woman or man has sex with their spouse. I do believe desire is one of the reasons, even in a long term marriage.
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Then, if the man has a lover on the side, do you believe it would still happen that often?
Yes. It can definitely happen. Women, believe it or not, don't have sex just to please their men. Some of us actually have sex drives of our own. And while kids can complicate things, sometime they spice things up, too! It really becomes inventive and interesting to find ways on occasion. However, when they're older they tend to become more focused on their own things anyway, and you often have more time to yourselves.
When you love someone, even if you spend a lot of time with them, the sex doesn't necessarily die, as a previous poster said. It all depends on the work put into the marriage and how the two get along.
Then, if the man has a lover on the side, do you believe it would still happen that often?
Most of the girl friends I talk to in healthy marriages, don't have sex that often. Once or twice a month if we find the energy.
Anyone in a healthy happy marriage believe this can happen?
Do you feel that your husband has a lover on the side, which is causing you not to be attracted to him sexually? If so, the following does apply.
Sometimes in long term marriages, sex can become's a boring routine. Maybe every now and then, the kids can spend the night with relatives, and the two of you can try something different.
Go to "Lover's Lane" and buy something for the both of you.
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It really becomes inventive and interesting to find ways on occasion. However, when they're older they tend to become more focused on their own things anyway, and you often have more time to yourselves. 
Maybe every now and then, the kids can spend the night with relatives, and the two of you can try something different.
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