[dsgb]

[font=times new roman][/font][color=blue][/color] Hey Whats up everyone out there I have a problem that I need help with. A month ago I met this girl and we started talking over the phone. We go to different colleges about 3 hours away. At first we were really vibing. We have a lot in common, and it was all good. After a few days she started to really like me and I really like her too, but a week later its like she started not wanting to be in a relationship. There have been some problems in her past because she didn't have a father figure. That is the main reason she doesn't want to be in a relationship. So right now we are just friends, but we both want to be with each other. I really think I love her. She is trustworthy, down to earth, and really everything I ever wanted but she just wants to be friends right now.

We don't really talk as much as we used to because she is really busy. I think she is the perfect girl for me and I don't want to be with anyone else, but she just doesn't want a boyfriend right now. What do I need to do to be with her?

[Pocky]

Try respecting her decision to not have a boyfriend. Maybe she doesn't feel the "vibes" anymore..

[vani]

hi there!
it could be 1 million reasons.
It may be your fault and it may be her staff.
Just some possible options:
... may U told or did something wrong/ugly
... may she likes another guy and only want to be your friend?
... may she scared because her mother experience and doesn't want the same?
... may she is busy or stressed with something and has not mind for relations now?
... may be her temp is slower than yours and she feels "attacked" by U?
… may be she likes U but afraid that UR not?
… and may be UR too "simple" for her and it's nothing to discover?

If it really trouble U –try to have a talk about. Don't press her and be ready that she has not answer or she will not want to speak about. Try to explain yourself clear and straight, as U do in chat. I believe that it'd give you some ideas about her and also feedback about yourself.

Good Luck!

P.S. respect others wishes is always needed, but advice of Pocky was a really bad one. To stay "at the side" and wait for your girl's arriving U any day is romantic but stupid. This way U just gives her legitimating to go.

[insearchofanswers]

wow dude

I'm living a similar thing now ... I think I fell for this wonderful woman, but she, like the one you speak of, has no father figure (he died when she was like 18) lack of trust, and commitment for fear of getting hurt is what seems to step in ... also this one still has feelings for someone that left her ..

no one can really move forward until they've let go of the past .... just be her friend, if you feel strongly enough for her, and the love is there, she may come around.

[alicia24]

give her time and keep being a great friend. It will pay off