I've already made a posting but there's more...!

My ex g/f from last year phoned yesterday and her opening line has freaked me out a touch. Tell me what you think.

And I quote "Mike, don't think I'm being a psycho and I don't won't you back........"
we did have a brief conversation but I had to go out. It was 20 minutes of idle chat really. About our relationship and other pleasantries.

The psycho bit was probably because the call was unexpected but I've never had a call like that ( and I've had a few strange calls in my time).

My gut reaction says that she IS psycho and she DOES want me back. I could be wrong. But I want you to tell me what your reaction would be if an ex called you seriously out of the blue and came up with that for an opening line!!!

Thanks

[Merin]

Isn't it funny how Ex's will often call to tell you that they are soooooo over you, have moved on and NEVER think of you?

Wow! Okay, and you called to tell me all of this?!

Sheesh!

[whichwayisup]

Listen to your gut. What good could come out of this situation. Do you want her back? Do you love her? Do you remember why you two aren't together anymore? I think the past should stay in the past. Unless current love interests are secure enough to handle the EX factor, I wouldn't bother. Seems like she wants to reminise about those days...

If my ex phoned and delivered that line I'd slam the phone down and run to the hills.
She DOES sound a bit psycho. Good luck

don't know exactly what to say. she has brooded for a year and finally called. i think she may think of as unfinished business. i would have been surprised if i were you so only your instincts can say for sure why she really called ie to put closure on things or see if you'd ask for a date. it all smacks of attention seeking

[disconcertainly]

I dont think that she is a PSYCHO.
Just b/c someone wants to chat does not mean that she is a PHYCHO.
I think I agree with the guest on the closur. She is possible just moving on with her life and wanted closure.
Honestly, I think you may still have feelings for her if this freaked you out that bad.

thanks for all replies

i omitted to say she texted me out of the blue back in april. we swapped 50 texts each before there was text rage! it was all general pleasantries until she revealed she was dating someone ( i knew she had an on-off thing with someone ) and she also texted her new house number so we could talk ( am i missing the point as she's the only ex to take the trouble to pass on a new number! ) v strange to keep in touch like that when you're in a relationship. clearly, it isn't working out or she'd not be contacting me!

i'll admit i do have feelings for her and i suspect we both still have feelings as each time we meet anywhere it's always v v awkward for both of us.

my gut instinct says it's unfinished business for both of us

[disconcertainly]

Why don't you try talking to her? I mean you can start as friends and maybe work your way back to a relationship.

Read the reply from Andy TT and commit it to memory. That's my viewpoint !

[DaiseyEyes]

Maybe she doesn't want you back but she wants you to want her back. I actually have a friend who pulls s**t like that. I think it's because some girls just want former lovers to think about them fondly from time to time. Do you have a new girlfriend? If so, maybe she called to mark her territory. Kind of a "I had him first" thing. Better that than peeing on your front lawn.

Thanks for the reply DaiseyEyes

You're 75% right! I suspect she wanted to press my buttons. But she only contacted me when she knew I was single. The bizarre thing was she sent 50 texts in a month before announcing that she was with someone - which is odd because if I was happily settled I wouldn't spend time texting an ex !! Plus she gave me her new house number. Hmmm...

I've been dating someone recently and bumped in to her twice. I was v awkward for all three of us I can tell you. There was serious tension and "cold" body language.

She won't contact me if she know's I'm dating but I'm old enough to know that this feels like unfinished business. It's in the air. We seem to "bump" in to each other in illogical places and times.

And no, I won't mess my current g/f about, even if we aren't too seroius just yet!

There is a chance she was looking for closure but having read your other post I'd say she was a drama queen. Quite possibly she was fishing to see if you'd take the bait.

Either way, it doesn't sound too healthy as the relationship clearly didn't work out too well so bin any notion of reconciliation and MOVE ON.....

the non verbal indicators are that she wants you back but this is also game playing so watch out!

sounds to me that you both have feelings for each other.

have you seen her recently?

Um, so, do you want to be with someone who you think is psycho???

Like, what is it you want? Permission to second guess this chick?

Get caller ID and next time she (or any of the other 'psychos') call, don't pick up.

By the way, the common denominator in these scenarios is you. Might be worth your while to figure out why you attract psychos in the first place.

The appropriate response to a psycho's call is "Don't call me again." followed by the sound of you hanging up the phone.