I am talking to this woman who I'm really interested in. She's interested in me as well but we live so far from each other, we can't really see each other and be a real couple. We talk on the phone for hours and hours just about every night. Anyways, she knows I have feelings for her but she might think I think she's not that pretty. Why? Because when she recently asked the question, "What type of women do you like?" and I answered "Looks aren't important."

It was boneheaded because this woman is GORGEOUS. She thinks for some reason now, I don't like her looks. We've known each other for 4 years now but we've been talking to each other on the "I like you" level for 4 months. We admitted to one another that we liked each other for years. Now, she might think I NEVER liked her looks and thought she was just "alright" from the get go. But I always thought she was hot.

When she kept asking me what I meant by "Looks aren't important.", I was confused, didn't know what to say and as I tried explaining it to her, I was digging myself into a hole. (D'oh!) LOOKS ARE IMPORTANT!!! I don't know what the hell I was saying. How can I salvage this? Because I said what I said, I hope she's not relegating me to the "friends" list. Because as we all know, friends... well... they go off the air.

[Merin]

Well.. she may have got the impression that looks aren't important.. as a nice way of you saying, you still like her even if you don't think she's attractive.. DOH! Is right!

Instead of going back to re explain what you meant (since LOL I'm not all together sure you even know where you were going with that) Just tell her when you do speak with her how beautiful you think she is.. then follow up with you really like the person she is, and her beauty is just a big plus

Good Luck

Originally posted by Merin2
Instead of going back to re explain what you meant (since LOL I'm not all together sure you even know where you were going with that) Just tell her when you do speak with her how beautiful you think she is.. then follow up with you really like the person she is, and her beauty is just a big plus

You're right. I didn't even know where in the BLUE hell I was going with that! I like personality but personality isn't the only thing I like about women. THAT is what I wanted to say. I confused my own self with what I was saying and she thought I was confusing as well. But oh well. That's something I'll never evvvvvver do again.

I did try to re-explain myself and I did and she said not to tell women "looks aren't important" because they might take it the wrong way. So I guess she knew what I was trying to say; that I like personality and it comes from the bottom of my heart and that looks aren't the ONLY reason I like a woman. If she could see how women might take that the wrong way, she must see what I'm trying to say. She asked if she hurt my feelings by her feeling initially insulted due to my "wise" choice of wording. So I think she gets what I mean. She cares... I guess!

I like personality but personality isn't the only thing I like about a woman...

^ If I said that earlier on, I could've saved a lot of breath...

*burps*