My BF has a mouth like a trucker. I'm not prudish about language- but at a point it really does become offensive. I've told him this and he does try to control it some- but when he gets mad it's F#$%&, God#$%&, etc....
This actually bothers me more than random cursing- I find it very intimidating and he always regrets his words later b/c he knows how much they upset me (He curses EVERYTHING that makes him mad- if you only knew the many 4 letter names of the Playstation )- but in the heat of his anger there's no stopping him
How on earth can he fix this? I really worry that when we have kids one day he may speak to or in front of them like this and that reeeaally bothers me.
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Getting involved in a church might help give him a guilt complex about it. Preparing for little ones to be around is definitely another. Just make sure you voice your concern. I know I have a potty mouth. I try really hard around the kids to never swear.
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We go to church- doesn't help much (he really has improved day to day- it's anger that is still a serious trigger)
I tried telling him to pretend the cat is a kid- if the cat can hear than so could a child- doesn't help
He thinks a miracle switch will flip when he has kids around- I say he has to prove that he can control it before I'll marry- and therefore- have kids w/him.
Treat him like a kid every time he curses tell him to put a dollor in the Potty mouth jar.. if he stops you made your point, if he doesn't you made some money... LOL
The fact that he's trying not to swear around you shows he's considering your feelings, but verbal habits once started, are like, you know, hard to stop.
Give it some time. Get off his f*cking back, woman.
We haven't attended for a few yrs before we started w/this church. Like I said- it has helped w/daily life- it's just when he's mad now. Unfortunately God is not at the front of his mind when the B@sterd cat is tripping him or the Damn playstation is pissing him off or I miss the F***ing exit- etc....
The swear jar- I might be a little less offended if I knew it was leading to a shopping spree! JK
Last edited by Fayebelle; 4th October 2004 at 3:16 PM..
Originally posted by Mr Spock
Honestly, it's not a big F*cking deal.
Get off his f*cking back, woman.
It is to me- Like I said- I let a lot slide in normal conversation- but I think cursing in anger is intimidating and I won't have it around my children. That's a dealbreaker for me. Why would I marry someone I think would speak abusively around/to me or my kids?
I realize a lot of it is habit and he is trying- that's why I haven't dropped him by now. I was just looking for ways to help him.
That was intended to be more humourous than anything else-swearing at someone in anger like as in "F*ck you" is a lesser evil when arguing then him calling you worthless...know what I mean?
Originally posted by Mr Spock
That was intended to be more humourous than anything else-swearing at someone in anger like as in "F*ck you" is a lesser evil when arguing then him calling you worthless...know what I mean?
Neither of those would EVER be kosher- He does not swear AT me- I would not tolerate that and anyone who feels the need to call me worthless could have a ball finding someone worthy of their rude ass b/c I'd be gone in a second.
No but seriously, make him put a dollar in for every curse word he says. Or make him do you a favor for every one. Make it fun and that way it won't seem as if you're coming down on him.
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)- but in the heat of his anger there's no stopping him
JK
Neither of those would EVER be kosher- He does not swear AT me- I would not tolerate that and anyone who feels the need to call me worthless could have a ball finding someone worthy of their rude ass b/c I'd be gone in a second.
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