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Old 30th September 2004, 12:13 PM   #1
Damami2burs
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Exclamation CP not ready for commitment...PLEASE YOUNG WOMan NEEDS ADVICE

Can someone help me?
I have falling for someone I have been dating for some time now he has he cares for me and is not looking for a commitment just yet? I love him and I can not force him to feel like I do. But I don't want to lose him. He is a great guy, smart, sexy, witty.
Am I doing something wrong should I wing it out? Help PLEASE>>>
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Old 30th September 2004, 8:56 PM   #2
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Damami2burs, you have the right to get what you want out of a relationship! Don't wait around for him to get there, too -- that may never happen.

If I were you, I'd sit down with him & tell him how you feel about him, but let him know you are wanting a committed relationship, and since he isn't there yet, you are going to move on. Either he'll think things over (and give him space to do this! Don't call or visit all the time!), and decide he wants to be with you and come back, or he won't. I know it will hurt if that happens, but you are ultimately freeing yourself up for someone who WILL want to commit to you.

Honestly, nobody is worth the agony you seem to be going through about this, regardless of how smart or sexy they are. The real question is: do they make you happy? Sounds like this guy doesn't.
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Old 1st October 2004, 7:02 PM   #3
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How long have you been dating? Have you talked about it with him yet? If you really like him, I guess Id tell you to try to be patient, but if your gut is telling you hes not into this, you should probably talk to him.
I would add though that if you do talk to him about it, you had better be prepared for any answer, and if you think youre going to tell him youre going to move on if he cant commit, you will really need to do that if he says no. You'll lose all credibility if you say that and then dont end things.
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