[l2hvn]

i am starting to feel something for this guy that i have been *casually* dating for almost a year. we never talked about getting serious or anything. he lives two hours away and i personally do not believe in LDR. so we would see each other one weekend every month. when we're together, it's almost as if we are in a *real* relationship. he treats me well. he has pretty much everything that i want in a guy. but i do know that he's dating other girls (he wouldn't pick up his phone whenever it rings whenever im around. he says it's inappropriate and also keeps saying that he doesn't recognize the #'s).

should i have a talk about *us*? i don't know. i don't know what he wants. i don't know what i want. i think i am afraid of what he'll have to say.

the whole time, i have managed to fend off my feelings to him and tried to separate my head from my heart. i have dated other guys but i kept coming back to him. maybe it's a comfort thing. he's my security blanket whenever a failed *prospective* relationship occurs.

i think i am a magnet for losers. i can't seem to find the right guy. and most of my friends are settled down. im one of the few that are still very much single.

i want to be in love again. i want that romance and happiness in my life. could it be that i am just transferring these needs to him? am i giving it to the wrong person? i need your opinion.

[Merin]

I think that as long as you're willing to go along with casual dating with this guy, that is all you're going to get out of it...

I don't think you have a special "knack" for attracting losers, I think it's just that you may be willing to over look things in a person that you don't really care for... doesn't make you a bad person though... but it also doesn't help in finding what it is you really want.

It's been a year with this casual dating bit... so if you want something more, than ask for it... and if he doesn't want more... then remain friends ONLY no benefits and resume your search for what you really want in a relationship...

Don't settle for what someone is "willing" to give you, if it isn't meeting your needs.