[XNemesisX]

My friend sent me this as I was having a conversation with him. I think he is right. What do you think?

J: it's hard to accept but things don't happen for a reason, there's no such thing as destiny, and everything that happens to you happens because of choices and chance. Hardly anyone wants to accept that so they keep believing in unrealistic aspects about life and when events in their life don't agree with their false ideas of the world they get depressed.... the best thing to do is to realize the truth about how the world is and not ever let anything or anyone control your happiness because nothing and no one is forever, the only one that can make you happy is yourself..... find goals and things in life you want to do and challenge yourself, you control your self and how you feel, not people or objects

J: no person makes you happy, you make yourself happy. When people think have this out-of-the-world happiness when they first meet someone it's because inside they are allowing themselves to believe unrealistic things about the person they met it's not because the person caused them to feel that way

[Merin]

Well while I can agree that ultimately we are all responsible for our own happiness....

I don't agree that things do not happen for a reason... even when it's something not so great.

Some people that come into our lives are FOREVER... I've got 2 little people that are proof of that in mine

It is in making choices of what direction to take when things go wrong or you find yourself unhappy that makes all the difference... as we cannot change or control others, but we CAN change and control ourselves.

My two cent's

[backspn]

If you agree that nothing happens for a reason then you cant believe in God. God puts people in our lives....its not just a chance encounter....we dont JUST meet people....they are put there for a reason. I do believe that you have to ultimatley makes choices....but God does have a huge part in our lives. If you actually do believe that nothing happens for a reason then you are saying that God has NO power over us. Sure we make decisions and we accept the consequences......but I believe that these are trials for us and tests if you wish. We meet our lovers and friends because God has chosen for us to be there at that certain place at that certain time. What we do from there is up to us.

[whichwayisup]

Things DO happen for a reason...Whether it be by choice or coincidence. It DOES happen. People come in and out of our lives. Some stay, some go..But we learn from it, good and bad. Makes us who we are. I think you just have to be open to it, allow it to happen...Really pay attention to the little things, be more spiritual, more open, less judging and critical and close minded.

So MUCH has happened to me in the last year. I am a total believer of this stuff. Doesn't have to involve religion at all...It's just an acceptance, keeping an open mind and really noticing people. Running into someone you JUST thought of 10 mins earlier...You meet up by luck, catch up and have a wonderful, meaningful conversation that just makes your day and it ALL MAKES SENSE...Make you feel good and you end up having an even better day!!