[ps123]

So, Ive been dating someone for two months now. Ive been getting lots of mixed signals and things like that and was having a hard time with it. I kind of thought she might be testing me and have some doubts about me and most of my friends thought the same thing. Anyway, we had a talk the other night and it turns out that we were somewhat right. She doesnt believe I am who I am. Im a pretty nice guy and she says Im nice almost to the point it seems fake. This is just who I am. Im not spineless and will stand up to conflict and will tell someone when I am unhappy or angry, but otherwise, Im generally nice to people. I just care about other people and definitely care about someone Im dating.
Anyway, I flat out asked her if she trusted me and believed that I am who I am, and she said no. Shes in her mid 30s and has been dating since her teens and she said that pretty much everyone except for a guy she dated when she was younger has been an ******* so she just started to assume all men were *******s. So dating me has been a change, but shes still waiting for my "bad" side to come out and waiting for me to start becoming abusive, mean, etc. I told her its not gonna happen, this is who I am. Anyway this explains a lot about some of the things shes been doing and saying over the last few months.
Im not insulted or mad at her reaction (Ive had other women say the same thing in the past) and I know theres nothing I can do but just continue to be myself and be patient, but I was just wondering if anyone has any comments or suggestions.

[kellydontwanttasleep]

it's fuct up guys that ruin it all for the rest of you

[Merin]

Hang in there and keep SHOWING her that you're not going to let her down.