[lovemachine69]

I'm in a rite mess!

my best mate has had two girl friends lately, and i've really liked or fancied them both. now every one says that i'm a big flirt but i just see it as having a laugh or messing on. my friend found out about me "liking" his first g/f nd i think he was a little unsure about me but he didn't really show it.

the second g/f i always had conversations with her and they were a bit flirty on MSN. a couple of weeks ago she kept asking if i fancyed her when i first seen her and i said "yes" . She sed to me that she wouldn't say any thing to my mate so that was OK

a few days ago they broke up and yesterday she asked me out on MSN i didnt really give a straight foward answer so i left it and went off. later that nite my friend said " did you fancy her when i was goin out with her?"
i sed "no" and then he came out with "well she just sent me the conversation you had with her!"

i was gutted and am surprised he wants to be my mate. i just want to know why i flirt and fancy my mates g/f's. im reeli mixed up and need advice on what to do. all im seen as now is a big flirt and i dont think he can trust me

im confused

[lovemachine69]

will sum 1 please reply i need advice quick!!!

[EnigmaXOXO]

What are the chances you might fancy your "mate"? Not in a romantic way…but more in a "wish I were more like him" way? Do you look up to him? Follow his lead? Envy how easily he attracts the ladies?

Sometimes rivalry can exist between close friends, just as it happens between siblings. A younger brother will often develop a 'crush' on his older brother's girlfriend. The same thing happens between sisters and close friends.

It's okay to "fancy" the girls your mate dates, but it's NOT okay to cross that line and make a play for them. Not if you want to keep your friends around. (Of course, you already know that).

Apologize to your friend. Work on improving your social skills and regaining his trust, then go out and find your own girlfriends before someone bloodies your nose.

[lovemachine69]

cheers for that you've brought quite a bit of light to me. he came out with me tonite and we talked a bit and we've forgot bout it, and the girl

now ive got my eyes on MY OWN girl and im feelin great!!!

thanx again m8