[TuvokNev]

Hi,

I'm 33, been married to my wife since 2 years now. We love each other. Basicaly we do not have any sex live at all, I think the last time we made love was 2 years ago, even then, it was very infrequently. She do not like to talk about it and I'm not the type of men who will force her or bug her up to the point that she give up and says yes... making love is not having sex, i want her to desire it. its strange, because I know her psychologicaly but i'm a stranger to her body.

It's hard for me some times. not because i miss sex,well i miss it, but more because i feel a bit rejected. Often i'll try delicately to approche her and kiss her on the neck and so forth, but she always find a way to push me back. for example, if the kiss start to be too 'hot', she will tickle me or something and move away... She will never touch me other than taking my hand, when she kisses me, its always a light kiss (like the one you will give before leaving to work).

sometimes i think its because of me, i mean my body, i'm quite slim (6' for 150lbs), maybe she is not attracted... i asked her and she says that she was attracted to me, but i'm suspicious, i think she said that to not hurt my feelings. me, i'm very attracted to her, she pocess the perfect (for me) body, hair color, skin...

i'm a man, i know man generaly speaking have more libido than woman. i got an erection as soon as she kisses me, my libido is high, i masturbate a lot to release the pressure. I don't know about her...

I remember something she told me long time ago (before we got married). she told me she will not be able to sleep with two man... sometimes a small part of paranoia come to visit me... these thought come in contradiction with my trust in her... these small moments of paranoia goes fast, there is no point to make scenario, i trust her.

I don't know how to approch this problem anymore, last time we talked about that, she says that our schedule are soo different, that its difficult (i'm working during the day, and she's working during the evening). on the weekend she always got something to do and always invite friends. I think she is making excuses. Gosh I sound soo bad, i mean everything happening in a relationship is 50/50, i got a part of responsability in this too.

Anyways if the person who read this wasn't bored to death about my problem, I thank him/her... it make me feel a bit better to write it to stanger...

thanks for listening.