Ive been dating a guy for 8 weeks and in the beginning he was not great about calling...we went out every weekend though. Now he has gotten a lot better about calling. He even called me the other night to wish me luck for something. He called me friday and we chatted. He said he wanted to see me that night, but he had to pick his friend up at airport...but he'd call me...he called me at 1am and said his friends plane was late...didnt come in until midnight, and was supposed to be in at 1030. However...yesterday he had a wedding to go to and said he wanted to see me so bad, so he was going to leave early. I figured he wouldnt end up leaving, but I said ok. So he called me around 9 and told me all about the wedding and asked me if i wanted to come out and meet his friends and then come over, he wanted me to see his new dog. They were still at the reception when he called. So I said sure, and he said he'd call me when they were heading over and I could meet them there. Well by 1200 he still hadn't called, so I called him. On the second ring someone picked up but I just heard a lot of guys talking...like i had heard when he called me at the reception, so I hung up and called back and got his VM. Is this considered "standing Me up", should i be mad, should I call him todday? I really like him a lot, we have a ton in common, and he always tells me how he misses me and wants to see me. I mean, he did tell me at the beginning of the week how he had this wedding and a few of his friends were staying with him the weekend, from out of town...but...Im confused. When we go out, we have a great time...I know he's interested, but what is he doing.

[uriel]

Standing you up is having a set date that someone blows off without contact at all -- or apology. This is not that exactly. It's more of an inconsiderate shifting-plans-see-you-if-it-works-out thing. You took his saying he'd see you later more seriously than he did, apparently. What he did isn't polite or super considerate -- don't get me wrong -- it's just not as cold blooded as getting stood up.

I think you should talk to your guy and tell him that you didn't like waiting for a call that didn't come. Say you think it's better in the future if you just keep set dates rather than doing the open-ended thing. The open-ended thing keeps you waiting by the phone when you could be making other plans (doesn't matter if they're for staying in or going out).

You don't want anyone -- especially your guy -- to think your life revolves around his impulses. If he wants to see you, he can make a date to do it, not just cram you in around the corners of his schedule.

-- uriel

[DJ_Dork]

you're thinking too much, ask about it later on without sounding upset.