[Pam]

My sister is 37 and her husband has been out of work for 6 years. He beats her and they are in a ton of debt and are about to lose their house. Also, she has MS. They have two children.

My parents have offered to get her and the children a place to stay and support her partially, as long as she moves back to California, where they live, and doesn't bring her husband.

My sister is afraid my parents are trying to control her life. She also doesn't want to move to California, and yet she doesn't know what to do. Every time my parents get involved in my sister's life, it somehow makes it worse. Probably because my sister doesn't change her spending habits and take responsibility for her life and the health of her kids.

Any ideas?

Is this offer by my parents inappropriate? Should they be telling her to figure it out for herself? I mean, she is nearly 40 years old.

[mighty bop]

Is this post for real? If it is, call the cops on that loser and make your sister do what your parents offered. I know the answer seems so simple, but everyone knows it's the right one.

CHris

[Pam]

Thanks for your reply. Unfortunately, all I have written is "for real." My sister is adamantly against moving back near my parents and one wonders if she is worse off under their control or worse off with her lazy, lousy husband. I wanted to suggest she find her own way, a third way, go somewhere she wants to go. But she is so afraid to make a step.

[mighty bop]

He beats her AND she has MS. How much worse can it get? Oh yeah it can. There are kids involved. You should seriously call the authorities.

Chris