[Tracy1970]

My boyfriend and I rarely make love anymore like we use to, and we have only been together 7 months I’m 34 and he is 46 and we make love 4 times a month. He is never in the mood to make love. He tells me he loves me, but then whenever I’m in the mood he doesn’t want to because he is too tired, and he will not even let me touch him down there.. I have tried make-up, massages, etc., and nothing seems to work. Anyone have some Advice please?

[lauramarie]

I hate to sound anal..but most men want to be touched down there..all the time..if he doesn't want you to touch him..it could be many things..he could be becoming impotent(hello viagra!) he could be getting his needs filled elsewhere..or he is just not interesed in sex anymore...whatever the case..you need to talk to him about it..

[faux]

Work, pressures of friends and life itself, financial issues, and the plain fact that he might be tired as he says he is are perfectly sound reasons for not wanting to get intimate. A man can love you and not want to have sex all that often. The amount of times a couple has sex cannot accurately determine how much they care for one another. Additionally, when a person feels very comfortable and safe in a relationship, especially after a few months, he or she may not want to make love as often. The fact that you do make love is something you should be grateful for. If you are concerned about this, you should discuss it with him.

For example, as him exactly what is making him so tired or stressed out. Bring up your concerns with him. Perhaps after a long discussion the two of you will feel much better at where you are at in your relationship.

[Gnote]

Originally posted by lauramarie
I hate to sound anal..but most men want to be touched down there..all the time..if he doesn't want you to touch him..it could be many things..he could be becoming impotent(hello viagra!) he could be getting his needs filled elsewhere..or he is just not interesed in sex anymore...whatever the case..you need to talk to him about it..

I agree with Faux.

I think that likely stress is the main cause. When stress falls upon you, the first thing that goes is your sex drive.