[wardy]

So, there is this girl ive known for around 5 months now (just friends) and i feel like i can talk about anything with her (which so far is true, she seems to have ways of getting me to say and do things i dont normally like doing) which is odd as im usually very shy and nervous around girls, which i am with this girl too but somehow we became friends

But for around 2 months or so now ive found myself having feelings towards her, strong ones... which ive never really experienced before. She is now aware of these feelings, not because i openly told her but she has a very curious nature and said she had an idea that i had a 'crush' on her (guess i made it obvious without knowing).. when i was confronted with this i found that i couldnt help but tell her the complete truth, perhaps i told her too much that i cant stop thinking about her, losing sleep over it etc

She doesnt feel the same way about me and she is cool with me feeling the way i do about her, and although it drives me insane im cool with that too, i dont want to force her to like me or hurt her feelings in anyway.

The problems are that she doesnt understand that i like her so much but dont ask questions about her, which is because im a really shy and nervous person and im too careful with what i say... if im honest its also because this is probably the first girl ive really ever really known. The truth is i dont know what to ask her, what is ok and not ok to ask her which drives me crazy as it sounds like im not interested in her when i am, and i want to express that but i dont know how.

Im not quite sure, but she sometimes seems to drop little hints such as "you should try and become more confident... i like that in men"
Also, when i do ask about her she sometimes doesnt give me a straight answer.

Ive asked her the usual stuff such as her interests, tastes in music, movies etc... afterall what kind of friend would i be if i didnt know the basics?

All in all, i feel really bad for not looking like i want to know her so if anyone has any advice for this mess id like to hear (if it made any sense), there are probably more details which i have missed too...

I forgot to mention... ive told her that i get a little depressed over this as it feels like 'impossible love' (probably shouldnt have told her that) and she just keeps telling me to think positive and that if thinking it could happed one day makes me feel happy then i should think that and forget about the negative side, and to never say never, stuff like that

[johnnyl321]

I've heard this before, so I'll say it again. Youth is wasted on the Young. Wardy, if I'm not mistaken, you are somewhere between 15-22 years old, right? And not to say that you're not experienced, heavens no, I'll not say that, but; these may be all new feelings to you. Sure, you're confused and maybe hurt that she doesn't like you the same as you feel about her. Unfortunately for us all, that's life. However, I do know this from having the same experiences when I was the same age. You will learn, you will grow and you will meet someone new who will make you think "Yikes, to think I liked her, look at this relationship I'm in now!!" I think you know what I'm trying to say here. Give things time, let it breathe and let it be. If nothing else in the world, my young friend, remember you have youth, you have innocence for a little while longer and it sounds like you have a good friend who just may surprise you. Because something else that the female of the species is good at, is keeping you on your toes, boyo. Best of luck and Godspeed.