[sam5219]

Can anyone give me some advice on dating while you are seperated?

I have been seperated from my husband for several months now and this past weekend without trying, looking, or wanting I meet someone at a restaurant while dining with some friends. We ended up talking for several hours, I was completely honest with my situation regarding my seperation but he said he really enjoyed meeting me and asked if I would like to go out sometime. At the end of the evening I gave him my number and he said he would call me the next day. I figured hey maybe he will wake up tomorrow and say what was I thinking but...

He called the next day just like he said and we talked for another two hours. I feel like we have so much in common and I am actually giddy inside when I think about going out with him! We made plans for this weekend to meet for dinner. I am just so nervous could I be rushing into something? My husband has been dating while we are seperated and I feel why shouldn't I?

Any advise from anyone out there who has been there please help?!

[Merin]

Dating while seperated.

Well is it a good idea?

IMHO it is ONLY a good idea to do so IF you plan on going through with a divorce.

Seperation, while I don't really see what the point is so much especially when you're married. It seems to me that if you've decided to seperate and not file for divorce doesn't that mean that the parties involved are unclear IF the marriage can be saved? So wouldn't that be the time to work on getting the marriage back on track?

Once you've started dating someone else, that is something you can't take back. Then IF you and hubby decide that you want to try to work things out, you've both brought even more problems to the table.

I'm not saying that it's okay for your husband to do it, and i'm not even saying that I would blame you IF you choose to date this guy you've met. BUT I am saying that IF you decide to do so, and obviously your husband is all good to go with what he is doing, then maybe it is time to let go of the marriage, make it a legal divorce and go on with your own lives.

[tiki]

I think it's fine if you have absolutely NO intentions on trying to make your marriage work. Now with that said, if you have absolutely NO intentions on trying to make your marriage work, DIVORCE.

[Scott S]

I'm assuming this to be a legal separation as part of a divorce process, then?

In such case, I would agree that it's okay to date, as long as you are above-board about your current marital status & your future intent.

If one was in a trial separation, then I would have to say no, the intent there being to mend/heal the relationship. I believe that in such cases, an extra-marital relationship would likely be very damaging, & significantly complicate things.