[bamaguy20]

i havent posted here in a while because i thought i was over my ex...hoefully you all have read my story and know what im talking about....but just last nite i was supposed to go visit a girl that i have fooled around with a few times and i know she really likes me, but right as i went to leave, i asked myself...is this new girl really as good as my ex....as pretty? as nice? etc.......Dont get me wrong this new girl is great, shes attractive, and all that, but when it comes down to it i tell myself shes not as pretty not as nice, not as whatever as my ex, and i dont go....so instead i feel like ive just gone 4 months back to how i used to feel, and its awful....i feel like my ex was the best looking girl im ever going to get, and it just makes me depressed..im only 20 years old and i know there are so many other girls out there, in fact i am surrounded by beautiful girls everywhere here at school, but when i really think about it , it just seems so hard and hopeless...i feel like i will never meet anyone whom i care and view as i did my ex......im just so depressed, any support at all would be amazing.

[expos]

Here is some advice.

Forget about your ex.

You are only 20. The next few years of your life are going to be incredibly fun and amazing. The single lifestyle is the best way to go through college. Play the field...discover what you like and don't like....have no regrets. From a guy to a guy...one women is not worth your trouble. College is all about growing up and getting experience for the real world.

Not to sound harsh...but you are just wasting your time dwelling on the past. Caring about the past will just stir up past feelings which you don't want to experience. Your EX is your PAST. Don't go back.

Try this out: When you wake up tommorow morning, tell yourself that this the first day of your new life. Reinvent yourself.

Why am I telling you this? Because I dated the same girl for a majority of my college experience and now I've paid dearly for it.

It sounds like to me you need to take some more time for you before you try to date someone else. If you are comparing every little thing about a new potential love to your ex, no one will ever measure up. It's not fair to you and it's not fair to someone that takes an interest in you. Work on you first, remember why it didn't work with your ex and focus on that, you don't want to repeat the same thing again. Maybe this new girl isn't "the one" for you, but does that mean you can't just have fun and enjoy each other's company? Believe me, when the right one comes along, she will blow your socks off and you will be trying to remember why you were ever so hung up on your ex. Tomorrow is the first day of the rest of your life and before someone else can love you or you them, you have to love yourself.

[bamaguy20]

Originally posted by expos
Here is some advice.

Forget about your ex.

You are only 20. The next few years of your life are going to be incredibly fun and amazing. The single lifestyle is the best way to go through college. Play the field...discover what you like and don't like....have no regrets. From a guy to a guy...one women is not worth your trouble. College is all about growing up and getting experience for the real world.

Not to sound harsh...but you are just wasting your time dwelling on the past. Caring about the past will just stir up past feelings which you don't want to experience. Your EX is your PAST. Don't go back.

Try this out: When you wake up tommorow morning, tell yourself that this the first day of your new life. Reinvent yourself.

Why am I telling you this? Because I dated the same girl for a majority of my college experience and now I've paid dearly for it.

thanks a lot man....that made me think a lot....did you feel like that was the only girl that was meant for you?????? do all people think their first love is the only one they are ever going to find???

[expos]

Yes...Even back in H.S....

I dated this girl my sophomore year and she was pretty much my first love. Then she dumped me and thought
that their would never be anyone else for me. I look back now and I think about what an idiot I was.

It's best to go out and meet new people....forget about your ex. If you start dating her again it's going to the same old sh** and it'll just show her, you, and everybody else that you're weak and a sucker. Try something new.

Believe me, their are so many awesome girls out there...your bound to find someone new.