[9Lives]

Some of you may know that I broke up with my mm on yesterday. I did not go to work and stayed on this site for hours to keep from becoming a hot mess emotionally. It worked.

Anyway I told him yesterday that I already miss him and we said our good byes. Then I had a moment where I text him and said I know we should do this but i dont want to and that I feel bad......(something like that). Well he did not respond which was fine. I did not take it to heart.

So today while encouraging one of the members of the board I wind up encouraging myself. I told one of the members "the best is yet to come'.

So I decide to let my mm know as well how I felt. So I sent him a text saying

"I'm actually fine. What we had was fun and exciting but the best is yet to come. Hopefully we can enjoy a friendship later. Peace"

Of course, he did not respond. What do you think he is thinking?

[healthnut]

I think that you did the right thing, and the reason he is not responding is because he's testing to see how serious you are. The best thing you can do now is not text/email/call/contact him. Let both of your wounds heal. You're right, the best is yet to come, and it will. Try visiting thirdage.com, they have some good articles/advice there. Hang in there, you did do the right thing. I will say some prayers for you.

[snilljente]

I did this exact thing with my ex...as I went through the roller coaster of emotions, I sent him messages saying I was fine to desperate messages saying I needed him in my life....he must have been really confused because my messages went from A to Z as I went through the grieving process..and still do....It's hard to say what you ex is thinking, but if you really feel the way that you did in your last message, then I would leave it at that...going back and forth is going to be hard/confusing for you both....and he needs time to think about what he wants...he won't get this opportunity if he is getting mixed messages from you...trust me..I WISH I could have left well enough alone...but I panicked and was sending him a ton of messages every day...didn't realize how many until I just got my cell bill ....I may have pushed him away..but in the end, I am ok with this because I would not want someone who would just suddenly shut me out and not return calls/messages...it is cruel...Give your guy time to think..the time will likely do you some good as well....

[9Lives]

Yall are the greatest....(group hug)!!!! I love ya. (see how easy I am) Okay well today I have to go to work. I cant have the "dont fall apart" party I had yesterday. I will be back tonight. If you need me let me know. I am here for ya girls.

[snilljente]

Glad you are feeling a little better today..hang in there...the "falling apart parties" will become fewer and further between with time as you heal....You are welcome to PM me at any time if you want to...we girls have to support each other....I don't know if this would help you or not, but when I first when through my divorce, I wrote up a list of what I am looking for in a relationship....I went back over it today, and while my most recent ex did have alot of the qualities..he was lacking in two very important areas..honesty, and sticking around when things get "tough".....it helped to remind me about what I am looking for and that he was missing a couple very important characteristics that I have already learned the hard way are necessary to a long term relationship to work.