Sorry this is long. I just gotta spill it out.
Alright well there is this girl I have been "talking" to all summer. You know that stage. Well for most of the summer she showed alot of interest, always trying to find reasons to hang out with me. So we hung out alot. Nothing really went any further, although she would lead me on to think it would. Then towards the end of the summer we didnt hang out as much. She was traveling alot and when she was back home she didnt seem to want to hang out as much. School was about to start and she was going off to college(30 min away). So I started to back off and just figured she wanted to go off and didnt want anything further between us. I accepted it. Well I soon found out that I was going to be going to the same school next semester and we would be staying in the same area. After she found out she started calling me again. What the heck? So after giving up on her, I started to pursue her again (only because she started calling me again). Well very recently she called me and said she was coming home for the weekend and that we needed to hang out. So I called her over the weekend. She didnt even answer the phone. I have yet to hear back from her. I know that she might be playing games and I am ready to once again give up. But Iam not completey ready to give up hope. Whats the deal?
thanks for help,
confused guy
You think she MIGHT be playing games. Hello dude... She is playing games... Isnt it obvious after the phone call to see you and then she doesn't even answer her phone.
I had a toy mouse on a string, and I used to amuse my cat with it. The mouse was only interesting if it was moving. The moment she pounced on it, and toyed with it for a moment, she lost interest.
In a word? Yes, she's just messing with you, because she knows she can. Its a wierd game. I know a guy right now that's trying to play the same thing with me...but I realized, once I stopped playing into it all, he would eventually learn that he cant do this to me, and that I really do care about my feelings.
I think it has a little to do with having enough self esteem to know that you dont need the tiny bits of attention they do give you every now and then, and also a little bit to do with knowing you can do better. Good luck, Ill tell you how my whole thing goes with the guy. Peace.
well for some reason I decided to call her again since I was down visiting friends at the college she is at. She told me that once I get into town to call her because there was some parties we can go to. Well I called, no anwser. So thats it. I swear I will not make the contact anymore. But if she does call sometime, what should I do? Should I ignore the call? Because as far as I am concered I am done trying.
Yeah, it seems like there's something wrong with this picture. I don't understand it too much and I know I'd never do that, well, acutally, I'm sure I have. She's definately playing games with you! The stupid dead phone, low battery, excuse is sick and if she's pulling that, she has a problem.
I'd say to give her a change one more time, tell her how you feel!!! See how things go and ask her to meet you in school somewhere.
If she calls you, don't ignore the phone call or press reject, just answer it and kindly tell her you're not available! Tell her that you have other plans, are seeing someone else, and so on.
I used to act like this to an ex-boyfriend to see how far he'd go to chase me...unfortuntely, guys give up, but my ex-boyfriend didn't. He kept trying and we were fine!
I think she's playing games with you so the next time she calls, just tell her that you're doing something else!
see thats just the problem. When she does call, she doesnt really make plans to do something. When we first met she was trying to find every reason to hang out. So if she happens to call I doubt it will be about making plans. Its usually random stuff. Thats whats been frustrating as of late.
I know what you're going through and I've had guys do that to me. It's awful. I would suggest to let it go, as hard as that may seem. Then agian, maybe she's waiting for you to make the plans...?
How about you call her one last time and say..."How about you meet me at Applebee's at 7pm?" And see what she says...leave a message if she doesn't pick up.
I agree with the meeting at Applebees at 7 idea. I feel like if you put her on the spot, then she'll either agree to meet you or say that she has plans. At that point, I would say to her, "When can you meet me?" Let her make the plans but make sure that she gives you a day and time. When you meet her, talk to her about the way that she has made you feel. Put her in your shoes by asking her if she just doesn't have any respect for you or if there is something that she has going on with someone else that won't allow her to get away and spend time with you like she used to. (This is all assuming that she shows up). If she doesn't show, call her and leave her a message thanking her for making it clear to you how much respect she has for you and for the wonderful dinner you had alone. And leave it at that.
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Good luck, Ill tell you how my whole thing goes with the guy. Peace.
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