[Mary2026]

I had been dating this guy for 3 months and he got fired this week and somehow he related this to we have to stop dating.
well he said over the phone we need to talk it something serious, i got fired and we are going to have CHANGES.
" we are going to stop dating ( i dont remember if he said for a while) so far I took it as having a break. But stop dating is so different from taking a break, right?
and bla bla bla but we have to continue comunicating as friends. now that he mentioned friends... everything in mind was clear.
the day before he got fired he came to pick up something and then after the minute he left that was ackward. then he came next week to pick up something but he came without givng me a kiss on the cheek,( he always gives kisses to his neighbours who he sees everyday). but he didn't act as a friend at all,he was very serious, like he was unconfortable.
a)I know that he wants to be friends but why he doesn't treat me like he is mellow with his other friends.?
b) why being unemployed has anything to do or is related to not dating? I know he does not have money and i am unemployed too. he used to come and pick me up to go places. but we can still date but maybe once in a while or go someplace that is free like the beach =)

[Papillon]

There is major pressure on men to appear successful and reliable, and to be the one who pays the cheque, buys the flowers, etc. I totally relate to how he feels, I've been there. He probably feels like a failure now, and that you deserve better than him.

You have to reassure him that being fired does not relate to his success as a man, and that your love for him cannot be bought. I sure wish my girlfriend at the time had said those words to me