[AngieCBC]

Hello,

I need advice with a situation that has been getting the best of me for a couple years now.

Two years ago, I was in a relationship with an abusive man. He cheated on me, lied, belittled me, took advantage of me... possibly everything you could imagine. It has left it's scars, and now I have much difficulty to trust anyone.

Now, I am presently in a great relationship with someone who I feel is my soulmate; he treats me like a princess, and I am completely in love with him. He was my best friend for a year, and I know he would never do anything to hurt me / make me not trust him (also, in all this time, he HASN'T done anything to cause me not to trust him).

Because of my past issues, now I find that I have these spurts (subconsciously) in which I try to find reasons not to trust him.

Mike and I have been talking about this, and he completely understands. We have found partial solutions to my problem and we are currently working on it. What I am asking for is for further solutions to just give myself to him and stop having the temporary fears of getting my heart torn again.

[RowanRavyn]

Have you been through counseling? Abuse leaves so many scars, and the most horrible ones are not visable to the eye.

Its good that you and the new flame are talking, and while you deserve to have your trust validated, it isn't fair to him to pay for the "sins" of your ex. I can see that you already know that.

Please, check into counseling. Maybe joint counseling too.

Best wishes on your new life. It is possible to move on. I have been there, done that, and I just keep finding myself along the way.

Peace