After 11 years of marriage, I'm just finding this out!

Sugar_Cube

What would you all say if you found out your husband says he loves you, BUT also just married you in hopes that you would change?

11 years ago before my husband and I were married we had many arguements about jobs and money. He always had a job and I was always inbetween jobs. He told me just last night he loves me and that was one of the reasons he married me but the other was he hoped I would get a job and keep it.

He says today this is not a problem because we are no longer hurting for money. However, he did state he holds some resentment against me to this day because of it. I would think thats water under the bridge, and shouldn't have any effect on him today, but it obviously does. I felt hurt that he would say he married me hoping I would change.

Also he didn't really ask me to marry him. I ended up bringing up the subject of marriage. Makes me wonder if he was every really going to now, and that had I had a job, maybe he would have, without me being the one to bring it up. Any thoughts are appreciated.