[abiyes]

Good afternoon all,

anyone's advice will be more than welcomed. Here is my situation: I like a man (Chris) who works where my best friend used to work. I used to work there too but left 4 months ago, when I found another job elsewhere, in my field of work. Chris and I had just started to get to know one another before I left for my new job, but never had a chance to explore the new feelings we started having for one another.

This week-end, my best friend told me that she also found another job elsewhere and will leave this workplace too. The problem is that I used to go to pick her up from work which gave me an excuse to go there to see Chris as well and talk to him.

But I will no longer have that option from now on. I have been very sad about this all week-end since I am not sure what other opportunities will arise for us to meet one another again. Can someone offer me any advice, other than praying God for a miracle (I've done that too many times already) to get to know the man I love..........?

Many thanks in advance for all your advices....

[chicasha]

Just take the plunge and ask him out!!!!! u never know....he might be so flattered to be asked
out by you, he could just say yes!

good luck.....!

ask for his email address and hope like hell he has one.

[Jennifer1234]

what kind of relationship does your friend have with chris? were they friendly work buddies? does she know how you feel about him - -if they can be friends after her job switch, maybe the THREE of you could get thoether and hang out....hoping eventually it becomes just TWO , but you have to start somewhere....will there be a goodbye party for your friend- - go to it! get your friend involved- - aftedr all, shes how you know of him in the firstplace....maybe thru her you can stay connected....and then some...wink wink

[abiyes]

But I decided to forget about him. I made too many efforts to try to have a relationship with that man already with no success. Today I decided that it's time to move on. There are many other fishes in the sea (I hope!) . The only problem is that I will never know what it is like to kiss him, be held in his arms, etc....oh well.....

Have a great one all and thanks for your input!

[Jennifer1234]

good for you - and dont worry how it feels to be held by him or kiss him- - everyone can kiss adn hold hands- - you should have no trouble finding someone else who has those talents and wants to try them out! good luck- -and good thinking, by the way- - you are rational and mature and realized how difficult it was going to be to work this situation - -better to find something a bit easier to pursue.....

[abiyes]

Lol. Thank you all for your replies.

I came back from a short business trip and noticed that he called several times while I was gone. On the last email that I sent him, I wished him good luck with the woman or women that he will choose to love and that it will surely be the last time that we would speak since I am planning on moving on with my life.

But based on the information my caller ID/voice mail is giving me, he apparently has been very busy calling me the day after I said these things to him....Lol. He said in one of his messages that he really must talk to me ASAP. Let's just see what it is about....

Lord knows how I have made efforts to win this man. I even sent him flowers at work, something that I never did for anyone before and I am 31 years old and have dated a few men!!!

I have to admit that I too have made mistakes that prevented us from being together. For example, we are both shy and the times when he approached me to talk, I was so shy that I just smiled at him and took off! I know, very silly of me...that's how I act when I really like someone.

Thank you all for your advices! This is a definite breakthrough. Lets just see what happens next....

Have a great evening all ;-)