[holdingon]

will my husband ever stop his affair?? I have asked him to leave but he is dragging his feet and in limbo about what he wants to do, stop the affair or leave home.

[EC]

Your letting your husband decide?

WTF? Kick him out...

Either he leaves her in 24 hours or he's out.

[holdingon]

I am not allowing him to decide and telling him that. In my own mind, I want him to stay. I have done everything to tell him to leave, split bank accounts, saw a lawyer, got apartment information for him. He needs to find a home first because he has no place to go (no family and he cannot go to her) and he is continuously stalling. I cannot afford to fund a hotel room for him and refuse to let him use the money that we have for bills to do that. He has been given every reason to leave but says it will be harder to leave me and my son than her. But he will not choose a path and commit to it. I am emotionally drained!

[EC]

How stressful! Why can't he go to her?

[holdingon]

she is MUCH younger than he and lives with mom. I am at my wits end!

[EC]

What a soap opera.

I think you don't want him to leave and are confused yourself. And thats why you are both stuck in this limbo.

He's cheating on you with a younger female. If it was me and my husband was doing that to me could care less where he slept he better figure it out and he would not be staying at my house.

He wants to be with her let her pay his hotel room. Let her deal with his crap. Let her figure out if she has friends he can stay with.

Your being to nice. If he's going to stay he has to leave her and commit to you and your son completely.

[holdingon]

You are 100% right. I am scared and don't want to lose him. I know that I should do what you are saying and I have to. My fear is that he will leave and once he does, not come back. But I have to get over that. I know I shouldn't even want him back but I have been blind sighted, never saw it coming and I am having the hardest time getting over it. I want him to still choose us!