Maybe there aren't any. Maybe we are all on this site because we are hurting. I know every story is different but I would like some hope.
Does anyone have a success story to tell regarding a broken engagement? I know there are a lot of people who have gotten back together after a break up but I am looking for stories of people who were engaged- broke up- and eventually got back together.
I know every situation is different and just because others have succeeded or failed doesn't mean I will or won't. I have just been reading so many sad posts I was looking for a little inspiration. Please share.
Thanks
I have seen the lack of success stories as well. I wonder... If there are success stories, would he or she have the thought or the time to come back and tell all of us the good news, and how it happened.
You know the old saying, "misery loves company." When you're unhappy, you seek out others in the same boat because they're the only ones who truly understand you. The lack of "success stories" (and you're equating "success" with getting back together with the dumper) may have something to do with the fact that those succeeding are too happy and busy to come back to let others know, or they don't want to revisit a place where they spent unhappy hours. They may also not want to make anyone feel badly, or jinx their own success be engendering jealousy.
It's like being in the hospital...once you're well, you don't come back and hang around to talk to all the sick people...
Very insightful. I agree 100%. Though, if my sad story has a happy ending, I will be sure to at least leave a brief note as to that. So many people come here for hope. Maybe there is no hope, but some kind of good news can help one sleep at night. Isn't it better to get through the night?
My husband of then 17 years had an affair with a woman he was involved in scouting with, they had intentions of moving me out of the house and her moving in with her two boys. She and my husband planned to fight for custody of my 5 boys.
I was supposed to just leave willingly and leave behind my children, my house and 17 years of marriage.
Wasn't going to happen.
Well after talking to the other woman on the phone I found out that my husband believed I had stopped loving him and that " I " wanted a divorce.
We lost our 21 day old daughter some years before and he mistakingly believed that because he was watching her at the time that I blamed him for her death. He had been under that misconception for many years.
He was unhappy with himself and because he never communicated his guilt and feelings to me I was never able to set him straight.
After the affair came out and after we were separated for a month he filed for divorce.
I was notified that the person was coming to serve me with my papers, the first person I called was my husband. I asked him to please be with me when I was being served as no matter what I still considered him my best friend.
He showed up and I was served, with him as my support.
A couple of days after my being served he got himself a duplex and he was having problems getting the things he needed for it, he asked the scout woman for help with decorating it and furnishing it. She said she would be glad to help but she never came through.
I did not know that he had asked her for help and he was very surprised when I showed up at the duplex with a new set of dishes, pans and dish towels.
He asked me at that time if I could help him get a microwave and some other things, so we went on a shopping trip.
He asked me after we left the store why I had helped him, and I told him that I couldn't bear to think of him in that duplex without having him being comfortable.
Well to make a long story somewhat shorter , that answer led to him cancelling the divorce. He remained in the duplex for six months and we took that time to rediscover each other.
We have been going to marriage counseling for a year and a half at the cost of 8000 a year but we have been back together for that year and a half and things seem to be greatly improved!
We are talking and communicating and have a much better marriage then we have in years.
Faithful, Isnt it amazing what communication can do? My husband cheated as well, because he thought I did not love him, or desire him, and it was not until I found out what he had done that we opened our lines of communication! Like you, I turned to him during what was the worst moments of my life, his cheating! As far I was concerned, he was the only person who could get me through it!
We found out that we both thought the other had lost interest in the other one and that was so far from being true! Through therapy and communication, we have re-discovered what it is like to be in love and are working on the most awesome love affair I have ever immagined!
I have an interesting story that just occured today. My boyfriend broke up with me. I have been wondering, " Is it possible for him to change his mind, even though I now live 600 miles away (his fault). I talked, in another forum, and everyone is telling me that he is just a jerk and that I should never talkt o him again, move on. Maybe their right...
To get to the point, during this sad experience for me, I have been doing a lot of thinking. One of the things I wondered is does any man who has ever left me ever wanted me back? Truth is- ALL of them have, but when they came asking, I had already moved on.
My first boyfriend ever tore my innocent little heart to shreds. I moved out of the state just to get away because I couldn't take being so near him and him not loving me anymore. That was 8 years ago. I wanted him back so bad it tormented me for years.
I just received this email from him this morning-NO JOKE>>>
"Hey, Just wondering:
How ya been? Remember me from way back when? Its been 8 years since I saw you and I still catch myself wondering how are you? Wondering what music your making. What projects you´re undertaking. Must be that part of my soul won´t ever let you go no matter how old I grow and no matter who I love. So I thought about letting you know that I realize now what I didnt so long ago. There is only one you and no replacement. I still proudly bear your mark and cant bring myself to change it. I just thought you should know I wont ever let go.
Or change obviously.
you can tell me to **** off now if you want.
Love,
Me"
How's that for success story... however, not his success. I am not available for him anymore. But it does go to show that people do realize their mistakes-if they made one- but not always in time to repair damages. He has loved me for 8 years, since the day I walked away, because he left me and I thought he didn't love me anymore.
Now if the guy who just left me would be a little quicker to realizing what we had...
A brief recap of my story: Me and ex-fiancee broke up 5 months ago. We were together for 2+ years. He's been doing all the contacting since then. Recently he sent me an email saying "that there is noone else in the world, that will treat me like he did, also saying that I deserve the best, and he is one of the best men in the world, and that he knows that good men are hard to find."
The reason why he wrote me that was because, he always asks, "do I miss him", "do I think about him", "Am I over him." And he always asks about my personal life. He wants to know if there is any one in my life, and are they treating me right.
His mother asked him, if he felt that he still loved me, he missed me alot sometimes, and that he doesn't want me to be with nobody, then why won't he try to get my back, he said "it's not like that, and I'm just not for her. "
He still has a girlfriend, and I don't think that it is fair to her that he ask and tells me this stuff, because he is not the cheating kind. SO I dunno what to think right now. I just see noone caring that much for nobody.
Kyndrad...the same thing happens with me. I have been contacted by all the men who have dumped me, and one who I dumped, either months or as many as 2 years later. One is now pursuing me, and has been off and on for the last 5 years since he dumped me for the second time!
But this last one may be the one who breaks the record, and ironically, he's the only one who would be worth going back to. That's why this is so heartbreaking. I feel as though I will never get over him, and he'll never come back. It's been almost 2 months now, and I never thought he would be able to stay away from me for this long.
I get flowers and calls from two other exes telling me that I'm a wonderful woman, no one like me, think about me all the time, no one compares, etc. It means nothing to me. I only want this guy to say those things to me, and I guess it's never going to happen. This the the hardest thing I've ever had to face. My life is very empty without his presence.
Thanks Faithful and all who replied.
I am hanging in there and I know that I have been able to get through some tough times because of the kindness of strangers- you guys!
It is funny that we here so many people talking about how since the age of the internet people are no longer helping their neighbors or having good interpersonal communication. I just wanted to say that this site has made me feel like I have had 100s of supporters carrying me through this pain. It is nice to know that we haven't lost our compassion for each other- even if we are total strangers.
Yesterday I ran into a guy 4 times. He works in my building but I also ran into him out at lunch- how weird. Anyway he ended up talking to me after work with some friends. I wasn't really interested because well as you know my fiance ended it 3 weeks ago. I actually told him that so he would know that I wasn't in an emotional healthy place right now and it wouldn't be a good idea to venture down that road.
Anyway- although he couldn't have begin to compare to my fiance it did make me realize that I am still attractive, fun, and desireable. I felt alive- even just for a few moments- again. I know this pain will end one day and I will be able to go on again. I know that part of my emotional understanding has to do with the fact that I am 28. All of you who are out there that are really young- that pain is severe especially if it is your first love. However, you have age on your side- eventhough you may think you have it all figured out- you are still learning about you and your personality and thoughts will change with age. Hang in there and I hope you have a great weekend. My fiance is visiting his relatives and friends back in his home state this weekend. We were supposed to go together and have an engagment party- oh well.
Based on trouble's story AND the other "success" story faithfulwife has given, I think I know now what the first step to maritial bliss should be:
I need to have an affair!
Then I can come up with some lame excuse centered on my inability to communicate, or my failure to understand my wife's feelings during a counceling session.
Afterward all's just wonderful in the marriage: What Success!!!!!!!!!!!
Originally posted by Samson
Based on trouble's story AND the other "success" story faithfulwife has given, I think I know now what the first step to maritial bliss should be:
I need to have an affair!
Then I can come up with some lame excuse centered on my inability to communicate, or my failure to understand my wife's feelings during a counceling session.
Afterward all's just wonderful in the marriage: What Success!!!!!!!!!!!
I've had my cake and have eaten it!!!!!!!!
I have the feeling that the cake is somewhere in your throat Samson. Don't swallow it. Let it out!
Yeah, I recomend it! The pain and deception, it was a BLAST! I am pretty new here, but I would think, if you dont like what is being said on a post, go to another one. I know that I refrain from posting replys to the "poor OW who can not see her MM" Like I would not have anything to say on that subject! PLEASE......
I will not explain why I felt I had something to add as a"Success Story" to you. The fact that we are still married is a success story in itself! I am happy and my marriage is going well, I did not give up, or walk away...,.I AM NOT A STATISTIC OF DIVORCE, sounds like a success to me!
I do not pass judgement or poke fun at the lives of others here, and that is why I come to this site, b/c I have not seen it much at all! And I do not appreciate it being done here!
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