just stumbled across this site while searching for something else on the web and figured it might be nice to have others to talk to.

i've been the OW for the past few months. said his marriage was over, wasn't worth the paper it was written on, reconciling would be like trying to move the empire state building, etc. but as of yesterday "they" decided to give their marriage one more try. kids are moved out. he says he loves me not her but feels obligated to try again. neither of them seem to feel that they can definitely make it work but thought it was worth one more try.

so how much of a fool am i for still wanting to wait for him? i've known him for years but just became involved earlier this year. had my reservations that i discussed with him about him being a MM. was convinced that his marriage would end this summer when his kids left but that got put off....

i want to hold out hope that we'll still end up together, he's worth waiting for but i still feel like an idiot.

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You've known him for how many years? And just started dating a few months ago? Do you know his wife then or does she know you? Do the kids know you??? Just curious as you say you've known him for years....

Ok... when the kids were home... he was with you...now they are gone... and he doesn't want you??

Can you add any more to this story?? Please?

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[quote]"they" decided to give their marriage one more try. kids are moved out. he says he loves me not her but feels obligated to try again. neither of them seem to feel that they can definitely make it work but thought it was worth one more try.

Did he say why he feels "obligated to try again"? If they both don't think it's going to work then why are they wasting each others' time? What is he telling you? Do you believe him?

known him for approx 10 years but don't know his family. i'm guessing that since the kids are gone they're both going through "empty nest" stuff and holding on to the past pretty tightly. tried to ask him if it was over, since both of them had agreed it was, then why were they trying. he said he felt they deserved one more try. i don't think he's lying to me and i feel pretty confident about that but yes, there's always that nagging....."my wife doesn't understand me" in the back of my mind.