meeting people can not be done like a step to step science project.
Rule 1 is go with the flow.
This thread reminds me of The Andy Griffith Show when they tried to get Goober a date. He wrote down and studied everything he should say, From "Hello" to things like the weather.
Join clubs. You are a computer programmer --- there are all sorts of professional organizations/associations that you could join or take part in. There you might meet more people with similar interests to your own. What about church groups? Volunteer work---find something you like doing and again, you'll meet others with similar interests.
Don't approach it like shopping around---you might meet the girl of your dreams through someone you meet socially. Get involved. Its an election year, get involved in a campaign.
There are on-line dating services and personals in the newspaper too. What about volunteering at your area Chamber of Commerce? or a museum?
If you are going to date you have to get out and meet people.
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its a little presumptuous to go about getting a girlfriend as if its like building an ikea chair. methinks you've been working too much, dude. go to bars, make friends...this isn't something you can break down into simple, predictable steps. by the sound of it, you may need to start slow, build up your social skills...clubs help with that.
i work 2 jobs, one as a night-crew stockboy at safeway, and the other a starbucks barista during the day...theres always time to get out there, have fun, and meet people.
i used to be super-shy and fairly anti-social. its all about getting in there man, and it takes time. hanging out with crazy outgoing eccentric people helps as well...go outside your comfort zone.
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why i haven't seen a scrap like that since the championship game back in nineteen diggety-fo'.
I'm an IT Director and have plenty of a social life. Getting married next month as well. So please don't try to stereotype us, as being cave-dwelling trolls who can't find a chick.
If you are serious, then find a new job. No job is worth being couped up 20 hours a day.
Sorry man....hate to say this, but i'm assuming you're straight from India, new to the US..and have like
absolutely no experience in dating, or talking to girls. am I right?
I'm Indian...and i've met many dudes who are in ur position. I kinda get it, cos you're brought up in a culture that does not encourage talking to women that much (yes people...it actually STILL happens).
And then....you get a job offer to come to the US..the land of the free.....you hop on a plane...come here...go to work...and then what?!
You cannot expect a girl to come into your damn cubicle to talk to you. Women in the US...are NOT like women in India...they are independent, like to go out, like to be wined and dined....and are generally NOT attracted to dudes who sit in cubicles all day doing work.
That is NO excuse. Everyone is busy...everyone has jobs...I work upto 20hours a day sometimes.....but I still get out there and meet guys all the time...I'm dating someone right now in fact. There's no excuse.
There's no Step-by-step guide...that's the funniest thing I've ever heard. This is what happens when people get transplanted from one strict traditional culture such as India, to a place like the US. You guys think there's a method to the madness. There isn't......you have to figure it out yourself.
You gotta get the f*ck out of your cube....and hang out in the bars...go to happy hours...join clubs....do things outside of work to meet girls. Like I said...even if you HAD a girlfriend....what are you going to do?? you can't expect her to wait for you at home, while you're cooped up in your cubicle, working away.
You gotta learn how to balance work and life before you even THINK about getting a girlfriend.
good luck dude...u got a lotta figuring out to do. No-one can help you. YOu can only help yourself.
Instant Girlfriend
c/o "what are you thinking"
No Way, In Hell
itllworklikethat
Brilliant! hahahaha
But seriously yeah get out go to clubs,go to bars, get your freak on!!
I don't know if your going to find a girlfriend at a club though the most you'll find is a one night stand! But hey............
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