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I have been with my girl for 3 years this Sept. On New Years Eve of 2003, her cell phone rings, she looks at it, and does not answer. Later that night, she tells me it was her ex-fiance. Her supposed best friend gave him (ex-fiance) my girlfriend's current phone number. What a nice friend. Anyway, she tells me that night, that she sometimes thinks what it would be like if they were still together, or if they went through with the marriage. Ya see, she broke up with him, cuz it came down to a choice--him or her family-- and she chose family, of course. So she explains how it ended so abruptly and how she wonders 'WHAT IF".

About 4 months later I bring it up, and she says thats all it was, thoughts, what ifs, it's not what she wants.

Last night, he calls. I'm livid. She tells me that she never talks to him and that she didn't expect him to call anymore. I believe her, but it still pisses me off. I know, that when he calls, even though she doesn't answer, those thoughts are in her head, and that bothers me intensely. Any opinions/suggestions/comments? Greatly appreciated. Thanks.

[Olivia_19742004]

Have you thought about asking her how she feels about your relationship? Instead of just being jealous why don't you try talking to her about how she views the relationship between the two of you. If she's wondering "what if" I'd say it has less to do with her old boyfriend and more to do with the relationship she's in now.