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Ok well I am planning on relocating to where my LDR BF is and this whole thing is nothing but stressful for me. I have never lived in any other state before and now I am moving there. Thank God I have a few friends there but still I don't want to have to cling to him like a life raft but in a sense that is what he will be to me. How can I make this move and him not get annoyed by me being clingy and needy. He says he is really happy I am coming down there and that's fine, but how can I keep myself from suffocating him when I get there? I am so frustrated right now I could scream. We have come across several roadblocks but they have worked out smoothly eventually.

Now this next roadblock he is putting in the way. i know the number 1 arguement in relationships is finances. he has made the decision to take over a lease on a porsche and looking at what we make, this is just not practical and sensible. he claims to be helping out a friend who has gotten in a bit of financial trouble. he says he will be able to drive it and it will be his after the lease is up because the loan will be signed over.

I am so frustrated right now, i'm not even down there yet, waiting on a job offer which hopefully will come through this week. He says he will get another job blah blah blah but he has 2 jobs already and teaches music lessons to 2 students, when is he going to find the time for another job and a full time relationship. he says he thinks i underestimate him when i really feel he overestimates himself. he told me if i didn't want him to do it he wouldn't, but come on, if i told him no he would get upset and say he's just trying to help this person out blah blah blah.... ugh!!! I just don't even know what to do right now. All of these roadblocks are starting to get on my nerves and this one could be avoided.

We love one another very much but how can i get him to see what this could do financially?? I am not going to put myself in a situation that I have to pay all of the bills and expenses. Any advice?