[t866]

My boyfriend and I have had our up's and down's. I meet him about the first month I moved to a new city with my parents. We have been together for 3 1/2 years. We have had our share of problems, and I always call my Mom when we are having an argument or fighting. I always make him look bad and blow things out of proportion to get sympathy. Now my Mom and Step-Dad "hate" him and do not accept him at all.

We are thinking about getting back together, but I'm very hesitant because of what my Mother thinks. She is the most important thing in my life. How do I explain to her that he is not a bad person, that I make him out to be? I have made him look so bad to her that I don't know how to fix it. Do I do what's in my heart? I know that she will always love me and be there for me. It just would be nice for her to trust me and to know that I wouldn't let myself get hurt and he would never do anything to hurt me like in the past. I always call her with the bad things, or right in the middle of a fight we are having. I don't call her to say how great he is or how much I love him. So she only hears the bad things. HELP!!!!!!!

[cinnamonstix49]

Just so that he isnt hurting you, I think that if you love him you should be with him no matter what anyone else things... and for the future, if you are with him, maybe you should call 'mom' and tell her how happy he makes you, every once in a while.

[t866]

It's so hard, when my Mother doesn't like someone it takes a long time for her to accept them again. I don't know that many people out here where I live and my Mother and I are very close. So I always call her when we argue and I'm crying. Then once I get off the phone, I realize maybe I shouldn't have said the things that I did. I just want her to know that I'm a strong woman and wouldn't be with someone that hurts me over and over again. Yeah, we do have our issues but we work through them. But my mother doesn't see past that. I know she wants what's best for me. I'm the type of person that wants to hear what other people think of the situations. I think from now on if we do argue, I need to keep it to myself.

What do you think is the best way to approach my Mom? I don't think anything I say will change her mind. I'm just so scared that she will cut me off (I don't think she ever would), but I do want my boyfriend to be able to come over for family functions and share those times together. Maybe within time things will change her mind. Until then do I tell her I'm seeing him again?

I'm such a perfectionist, so when things don't go my way. I blow up and turn little fights into huge arguments. I know that it's not just him, there's things that I need to work on as well. She only looks at the bad times, when I look back on all the great things my boyfriend and I have shared together. It's so hard when your Mother & Step-Dad do not ap-prove of the man you are in love with. It kills me inside!!!. Thank-you for listening.