[nola504]

One of my girlfriends suggested I try online dating because of my busy schedule and non-existant social live. I'm a bbw and met this wonderful guy on a site that caters to bbw's and admires. We have been dating for about a month now. We talked on the phone for 2 wks and each conversation lasted for hours, neither one of us wanting to be the first one to hang up. We decided we could wait no longer and had to meet. He lives about an hour away drive. Distance was a concern. But, we decided it was well worth it.

I have not been in a relationship in a long time. My longest relationship was 10yrs. So getting back into the dating scene was really scarry. Most of the men I dated cheated on me. My exboyfriend had 2 kids with another girl. It was a concern of mine when placing the ad that i'd met some guys that were not honest and out for games. I asked this guy had he met anyone else and he told me no. I told him upfront that I was looking for a friendship that would lead to a long term relationship. I'm afraid my insecurities maybe getting the best of me or is it warning signals. We planned a weekend together and he ended it early saying he had somethings to take care of at home. I notice he leaves his cell phone in the car when he visits me too and he has never given me his home number. Saying it's his dads phone. I planned a birthday celebration for him and now he tells me he can only visit on Friday because his father planned something for him on Sat. I just seems kinda funny because his routine has changed. He use to call me at least 3times a day.

[Vie]

I think your relationship is a bit too young to tell. You didn't say how long you have known him before you decide to go out with him.


However, there were some stuff I find awkward from your story, especially about the phone number thing. It seems that you're a nice and caring lady. I just hope that he realizes and appreciates that. Relationship will only work if two parties are working together..


My suggestion is to take everything slow and let him make another move. It's okay to be cautious because you have a heart to protect. See how it goes... if he really cares and feels the same way for you, it'll show.
Another thing you can do is to talk to him, tell him how you feel and see how he would respond.


I hope things go well... take good care


*~Vie~*

[simplybrill]

You met online.

Its highly possible he's cheating. Unfortunately.

You're not exactly there to see if he's not- right?

[Fayebelle]

IMHO-

Leaving the cel phone in the car is an act of respect-proving he's focused on YOU and not whoever may be trying to call.

If he has his own (cel) phone then there is no need to tie up his parents line w/calls-agian respect.

Keeping his Dad's plans- see above.

Phone calls often dwindle after the "getting to know ya" chit chat is thru.


Give it time- he is a new man- NOT your exes so don't hold their sins against him.