[BrotherD]

GOOD NEWS...

I'm at 12 weeks NC.

I have gone through hell.

I am gettin' better.

NC WORKED!

How? CAUSE I GOT MY ACT TOGETHER!

Not because of some pipedream about getting the ex back etc.

Because I got it together.

The only way that it could've have happened was to have gotten away from the swirling vortex that was my freaky, toxic relationship!

I was only then that I was able to see that our "love" made us both insane!

Yes that's what I said we were insane...

And the only way to get that clarity is TO GET AWAY! For at least 3 months!

Some people talk here about NC for a week or two. No!

You must get away for at least 3 months

Where did I get this amount of time?

Because that's how long I've been in NC and it was only until a few weeks ago that I finally "sobered"

up and realized I was a groveling, "sally" who put this biyatch on a pedastal and let me life slip away!

GAME OVER!

WAKE UP! Your ex isn't "all that..."

See how you feel about the way you were treated after you go away for 3 friggin' months.

You'll be pissed!

I'm ashamed! All my friends said "what happened dude, you lost the plot..." They were right.

In the meantime, I"VE GOT A DATE WITH A HOTTIE!!!

I took the advice from the good people on this board and I got back to the gym and started throwing the weight around. Three times a week. Religiously. I LOOK GOOD...(humbly submitted )

Anyway, I'm up at 6:00 am everyday workin out and sure enough I cross paths with this beautiful creature...

After a few weeks of seeing each other I asked for a date. We agreed to go for a walk around the lake...Today as a matter of fact!

If I had'nt gotten away from the crazy making world I was living in with my ex, and gotten it together and GRABBED THE REIGNS OF MY LIFE! This date would not have occured!

For the first time in a long time I feel like things are comin' around

I HAVE REAL HOPE THAT THINGS ARE GOING TO BE GREAT IN MY LIFE.

HOPE THAT I WILL FIND SOMEONE NEW WHO IS HOTTER THAN MY EX, NICER THAN MY EX, AND WANTS ME!!!

Just as important. I THANK GOD MY EX CAME INTO MY LIFE! IF THIS HADN"T HAPPENED I WOULD BE A LESSER PERSON. This ordeal has strengthened me. I am way better than before.

I think this is God's way of teaching us a lesson in life. It has to be cloaked in something very unpleasant or we won't "listen" to the lesson or get what we need to know. We will just stay in our current rut in life.

What I got from all of this is when something rotten happens to us WE MUST LISTEN CAREFULLY TO THE LESSON GOD IS TEACHING US.

Believe me I wasn't sleeping in the back of the classroom for this one. I was wide awake, front row raising my hand.

YOU DO THE SAME

LOve, BroD