[mr.SI]

i was talking to my ex earlier and i just had to tell her that i can't help but think theres a second chance between us. the reason why i told her that is because the way we talk on the phone. well she told me to give it time and don't pressure her. and also i said that i didn't want to loose her to another guy and she joking said don't be greedy. basically after that we continued to talk. so is this a good sign, or did i do a wrong thing? i hope this is a good sign and just have give it time. what are your thoughts?

[uriel]

This is a mixed signal. She's not absolutely saying "no," but she's not saying "yes" either. Given whatever reasons you two broke up, she still has serious reservations. That much is certain.

Some women string interested exes along for the self-esteem boost. Others are seriously considering a reunion. Only time will tell in your case.

However, the "don't be greedy" comment leads me to think she might be stringing you along -- since she said it to make you jealous, even after she knew your interest. Again, I don't know this for certain -- but I would be concerned that it's a possibility.

-- uriel

[mr.SI]

thanks for the opinion, but i know shes not stringing me along for self-esteem boost. what i think is that she is problably talking to other people to see her true feelings for me. for me i think this girl is definitely worth the wait. yeah im not so sure about the greedy comment either, but like you said only time will tell. anybody else has any other opinions???

i have a similar dilema. i'll spare the long tale. but i want to know if i was being stringed along, and someone wanted to spare my feelings. my ex-girlfriend and i spent a very strange weekend over memorial day. we had tried to break, it was an LDR, she felt too young to get married. needed to explore. we had a great time over the weekend, when we were not her apartment, and there was no sexual tension. we went back to her parents house, because of her sister's graduation. i get along very well with her parents. both her parents told her that she should marry me. we had sex that night, we had sex about two hours before i left for the plane. we agreed that we wouldn't contact each other for six months. she wanted to see what was out there, she had a met a guy. i had dated others during our first separation. she told me to have fun, that she wouldn't worry about me, but she was also very sad to see me leave and in fact was writing her name with my last name before i left for my plane. we both said we love each other. right person, wrong time. we joked around at a birthday party that i organized for her that weekend that we wouldn't talk to each other for six months and then probably get married. she told her mom that we can't talk to each other for a while, because if we keep tallking we'll get married. she feels that she needs to be independent and experience another relationship before she can even consider marriage. so far i have not contacted her for 7 weeks. i feel terrible, but know that i can't contact her. no sign of weakness. she knows how i feel. is this mixed signals, does she really have strong feelings for me and just needs to grow up a little bit. i'm 4 years older. we joked around that the new guy is going to treat her poorly and then she will give me a call. she already commented on how this guy that she may date is abusive and manipulative. should i give up all hope? i mean i know that time will tell, but what are some opinions about this?

i have gone out with other girls, but the more i do the more i realize that she is the one for me. just need some opinions. thanks

[mr.SI]

your ex is young and so is mine, i believe you are right that they want to see what else is out there. well in my opinion of you treated your ex well and had great times together she is always going to compare you to this new guy. plus she told you that this new guy abusive and manipulative, so im sure she going to run back to you. just give it time and go with your gut instincts. good luck