I have a question....see theres this girl i met on an msn convo...she lives near me...same city so on, she thought i was cute and all, she shares the exact same interests, an AMAZING personality.... Its just her looks...we're gonna meet up this sunday and I dunno what to say....i mean it wudda been perfect if she was hot...like a freggen dream come true....but i dont know what to call her at the moment...i dont care about her looks its what my friends think... "shes too ugly" or something u know? i know u guys shud say "ignore them" but my reputation will go down...and i dont want it to happen...shud we date secretly....im just confused...this is one of the best forums i seen around for like..loving and fitness...

remember i dont wanna screw things up for this girl im going to the gym...eating healthier and everything just to impress her....so guys...tell me what to do?

[Fayebelle]

I am a former beauty queen ( not a joke but feel free to laugh) and my BF outweighs me by 200 lbs. If you want to know how much that matters to me than check out the other comments I've made about him on other threads and you will see what is important to women.

No one deserves to be dated SECRETLY- if you think this is an option than you don't deserve her. And I would consider what I look for in a friend if they are willing to judge you negatively for finding someone who makes you happy.

[Fayebelle]

Dude- what's your problem- She's cute!

[Teenlove]

U sure u seen the one with the glasses?

[Olivia_19742004]

The thing is.... i really dont care what she looks like...its my friends.....you know how they go "ur dating an ugly bitch! (sorry about the swearing..) im just scared....whats gonna happen?

So what do u think i shud do.... Shud i Date her secretly... Or not date her...or Date her with out a care..I dunno...im just confused..she made me go crazy...i started to eat healthy...starting to work out...its crazy i just really like her...so technically..im scared

You need to get some courage and stop worrying about what your friends think. If you like her you should do what you want to do. What would you rather have? A hot girlfriend that doesn't stimulate you or a cute girlfriend that stimulates you every day?

What does it matter what your friends think? Most of them will probably be jealous that you have a girlfriend and they don't.

OH STOP she's not UGLY! She wears glasses but so what??? She has a very pretty face and looks like she's a happy go lucky person! Who cares what your friends say if they are REAL friends it will matter more that you're happy!

Would you prefer to date some "super hot" girl that all your friends will want to try and steal from you?

Don't be shallow! Don't date her in "secret" if you feel that way maybe she deserves better than you! But if you KNOW you like her, date her and f*ck what any one else says!

[Fayebelle]

I replied to your other thread before this one so maybe you should check that one out too.

[Teenlove]

So u guys are 100% sure that i shud do this and date her?

[hurricane495]

Dude follow your heart and Be a man dont let your friends or anyone else for that matter make decesions for you.
If you dont date her and your friends are happy the question you need to ask yourself is would you be happy? I really dont think you would My girlfriend is a lil chubby and isnt a supermodel but she makes me feel like a million bucks every time im with her and my friends are just happy im happy. Maybe you should pursue new friends. mature friends

[Fayebelle]

Maybe you should worry that she would hold your shallow friends against you.

[quankanne]

do looks matter? only if you're incredibly superficial about those kinds of things. my thoughts are that if you put a bag over someone's head, a stellar personality should shine through, because looks are unimportant in the overall scheme of things.

Ditto fayebelle's remarks: if you have to date someone in secret, you're really not someone worthy of dating.

[Olivia_19742004]

So u guys are 100% sure that i shud do this and date her?

No. I've changed my mind. You shouldn't date her. Don't waste her time. She deserves someone that wants to be with her enough to not care that his friends don't think she's pretty enough.

You're the loser not her.

[EC]

Guys are so vain sometimes. Your not ready to date anyone if your in the "it's all about me" state of mind. Dating is a two way thing where you learn to put other people before yourself sometimes. Your already thinking "my" reputation what are they going to say about "me".
Grow up. If you like the girl who cares what she looks like. And "secretly" wtf! That's not fair to the girl. Guys like you make me so upset.
If your going to date her then date her proudly and don't care so much about what your "friends" say cuz in the end my dear you will see that you will only have enough real friends to count on one hand.

[Teenlove]

You guys dont get it....IM CRAZY ABOUT HER i dont care what she looks like...Its what other people think...I'm the sensitive type....plus i am in high school..And EVERYTHING starts up in High school...so im sorry if i dissapointed u guys....but i think im gonna do it...i know i pissed u guys off by saying do looks matter but this is one of the best forums when ANYONE can express them selves and no one would laugh..and thats why i posted it here....so people please....im gonna do it sunday and if theres something that u hsud warn me about tell me now...

[Olivia_19742004]

And what are you going to do when your friends start making fun of you? What are you going to say when she hears your friends calling her ugly and names to you? What will you say to them? What will you say to her?

Don't break her heart because you're too weak to stand up to your friends. We were all in high school we know what it's like. I'd rather be alone and know that I am honest with myself and others than to be someone I'm not just so I have friends.