Should i dump him or try something else.

jlr_04 · 13th July 2004, 4:10 PM

My b/f and i have been dating for about 4 years. Well he was the nicest guy in the world treated me like no one ever has, loved to do things w/ me everything was great.we broke up 2 times and he slept with another girl which I took his virginity. Well ever since we started going back out he is a total jerk. He never does anything with me he always does what he wants to do and never what i want its all about him anymore. I try to talk to him like i used to but now he says i am stupid for feeling the way i do. i just don't know what to do i am afraid to dump him incase i do make a mistake cause i really think i love him or the old him.

EC · 13th July 2004, 4:11 PM

Have you talked to him about what you are feeling?

Fayebelle · 13th July 2004, 4:13 PM

It seems the "old him" is gone and unless he shows up REAL soon... well I'd be gone too before I'd stay w/someone awful for the memory of someone wonderful.

jlr_04 · 13th July 2004, 4:18 PM

I have tried so many times to talk to him he just acts like he don't care but i feel as if without him i'd be lost plus we live together so i would have to move out. I am so confused i can't handle it anymore when we did break up i was miserable, wouldn't eat, cried. i don't want to go through that again but yet i feel i should make myself happy.

Fayebelle · 13th July 2004, 4:20 PM

Right- you were depressed before b/c you felt you had lost something good. Staying w/this man is only extending that pain. You lost him before and he just hasn't come back. I am sorry you are so sad but you will only be more miserable if you stay.

Who's name is your house in? Kick HIM out if you can.

jlr_04 · 13th July 2004, 4:25 PM

thank you for your advice, i wish i could kick him out but it is in his name. darn huh!

I know i need to do what makes me happy even if it makes me completely misserable at first.

popvix · 14th July 2004, 9:09 AM

All i can say is that you need to give him a proper FINAL warning about the way you feel right now... and i mean in a formal manner that he cant escape from or make excuses not to do.... Make a restaurant or a cafe date to meet him and maybe even write a letter or write down exactly what you want him to know. That way if and when you guys break up, then you can at least both walk away from things knowing that fair chances were given.

Im on the receiving end of someone breaking up with me right now, who suddenly surprised me one day by leaving... after 7 years - I'm so angry with her because she never once made the effort to let me know what was on her mind, just took it upon herself to leave me one day.

After being with him for so long you owe him that much respect, even if he doesnt seem to be showing you much on the surface right now.

jlr_04 · 14th July 2004, 9:21 AM

Thanks, I will give it one last shot cause he is worth it.