Any suggestions will be appreciated. Please help me out.
I have been with my fiance for six years. We met in highschool at the age of 16. We have a house together but no children. We dicided not to have children until we are married. (Though we have protected sex). I notice that our
"sex life," has been dramaticaly decreasing. I have attempted to get his attention in several ways even asking him if there is a problem. He stopped sleeping in our bed alltogether and started sleeping on the couch. I feel like I have attemped everything to get his attention.
This week I found some porn in his wallet. I am not angry because I know this is a man thing. So I did not say anything about it but I did confront him and tell him I know something is going on and if I can help I want to. Though I want to help him through what he has going on I feel like crap myself. I am worried that maybe he met someone else or that I just don't fit his criteria anymore. The thought of splitting up terrifies me. What should I do.
I am walking around with a hole in my stomach.
Please help.

[Moose]

I'm sorry to hear how you feel. Have you changed anything about your appearence or anything? It's kind of strange that he's sleeping on the couch instead of with you. Have you notice any other changes in him? Do some more detective work and see what you come up with.

Keep us posted!

Hummm?? Might not have anything to do with you really, may just be him or something he is going through. It is odd however that he is sleeping on the couch and not with you. So something is up but now you need to find out what. Its hard to say what may be going on with him. I agree with Moose though, you need to some detective work and find out whats really going on. People don't just move to the couch and start sleeping unless theres a problem. Let us know if you find out what it is. Best of luck.

[FolderWife]

My husband did a lot of that sleeping on the couch thing when he was addicted to porn. He'd sleep on the couch, that way I wouldn't hear him get out of bed to get on the computer. He'd stay awake watching something on TV, then he'd fall asleep, and wake up around 4 a.m., and look at porn for about 4 hours, until I got up.

He only slept on the couch on his days off though. Once our computer was gone, he started coming to bed again. Until during his vacation, when he slept on the couch a couple of times, and then two weeks later, I found where he'd ordered pay per view.

You already found porn in his wallet.

Do you have the internet at home? check your cookies. Do you ever see the cable bill? Look for pay per view. Do you have seperate closets/bathrooms? Check the shelves in the closet, or under the bathroom sink.

If you find anything, you may have found your problem

If not, then it may be something else.