[Whisper]

My ex broke up with me because he wanted to date someone with a different personality. Dont get me wrong, we never fought and we get along great. Our relationship was the kind that everyone always commented on, said how we'd be together forever.

We still talk. Our break up was about three weeks ago. And it was out of the blue. We were together for a year before we broke up. Since the break up I've seen him about three times, but we talk almost daily online. We dont really talk about us, just because it's a touchy subject that just makes each of us upset. I do know that at the moment, he is not considering getting back together with me.

I know he's still attracted to me. And he was once very much in love with me, tho I dont think he is anymore.

I still miss him very very much. But I'm not falling apart anymore, so that is good.

I'd just like to know what to do to increase my chances of him realizing he messed up, that he misses us, and that we're good together.

Or should I just let him go and lose all hope?

[sportsloving]

You don't have to lose hope, but you should be realistic. If he broke up with you because he wanted to date others, something was missing in the relationship (sorry, I know that hurts).

You can always do the no contact, sometimes it is hard for them to miss you if you are still talking everyday . Just tell him that you still have some deep feelings for him and aren't able to talk to him as "just friends" right now. Perhaps then he will realize how much you mean to him.

Just keep in mind, the break may or may not be permanent. Don't stop your life for him

Good luck to you, and I hope you are able to get back together

[LiLBxQt]

I think if it was meant to be, then it'll all work out in the end. Just sit back & relax. He'll come around if he's ready to. In the meantime, do your own thing. There's really no way to increase your chances of getting back together. If anything, if you stress the issue with him, he's most likely just going to stray away even more. I am still friends with my ex from 5 years ago. We continue to talk on a daily basis online. We sort of became each other's support. We broke up b/c of personality differences while going out, but 5 years later...we realized we've pretty much grown alike. It's strange...I tried seeing him again within these 5 years, but we both realized that a relationship still wasn't going to work for us...

My best advice... give it time... in reality, 3 weeks is still a very short time to expect a person to come around

[Whisper]

Should I stay his friend? He seems so set on not getting back together, but ... I just dont feel like it's over. Maybe I'm in denial, I dont know. It's frustrating. I wish someone could tell me what to do to increase my chances, but no one seems to know. lol. Right now I'm doing nothing, because I dont want to make things worse.

Hmmmm. I feel helpless.

[LiLBxQt]

It sounds like your really dependent on him.... Why do you want to be with someone soo badly who apparently doesn't want to be with you at the moment? You can do better!!