I met this guy in a club last week, and for the first time I was totally having a crush on him...although I know that most things do not come out from finding fun from clubbing but I can't get him out of my head! I kept on thinking about him whole day and I wasn't sure if I should even give him a call because he would call me if he wants to see me...and I am not the type of person that is very persistent...should I give him a call if he doesn't call me in a few days? or should I just wait? Is it stupid to even think of someone who probably is only looking for fun? He seem very nice yet I don't know how much he said was true and how much was not..I don't know yet the only problem now is that I just can't get him out of my head...>_<

[StartingAgain]

You are infatuated and that is the first stage of love. It doesn't mean that it'll progress to the next stage though. You are smart in being a bit wary of guys you meet in clubs, since so many are there for nothing more than a hook-up and will tell you anything you want to hear in order to bed you. But not all of them are this way. Some are just there to have fun. Fine-tune you Player Radar. What's wrong with giving this guy a call? Me may have been feeding you a line, but he may have been sincere. Call him and tell him that you enjoyed meeting him and would like to get to know him better. Suggest meeting for coffee or lunch for a nice chat. Don't meet at a club, a party, or anyplace too private and intimate. This way if you find you need an escape, you can always extract yourself with something along the lines of "I've enjoyed this, but now I must get moving; I'm meeting my sister/girlfriend for some shopping.) Chat him up ask him things about his life (the real stuff, not what his favorite band is). Have him repeat some of the stuff he's already told you about himself. Pay attention. If there are inconsistencies in the things he tells you or if you catch him in a lie, he's probably playing you. Just take it slowly and carefully. Let him know you are interested, but not player bait.

[Lilyann]

Just call him. I dated a guy for five years that I met at a club. Heck, he even proposed.

Best of luck.

I called him last nite finally..and we talked for little over 2 hours, I was glad that at least he is still interest in talking to me....although we still have not set up a day to get together yet, he did mention to me there's some place he may like to go with me...I don't know much about him and i don't think i can trust him totally...but I guess at this stage i should just play it by ears...I guess I am happy that I called anyway, ^_^