[wolvie666]

I've been dating my fiance for 6.5 years now and we're pretty much as close as two people can be. We got engaged last summer while on vacation in Colorado, but suddenly she is saying she doesn't want me around for a while. She says she needs to decide if I'm really the one for her. As you can imagine I'm not dealing with this very well and am finding it hard to stay away.

We were young when we got together, she was only 15 and I was 18. Nobody ever thought we would last this long but we fell madly in love and have pretty munch spent everyday together since. We're both adults now and the flames never really died down until a couple of weeks ago. She's been going out a lot lately (she was never much of a drinker) with her friends and staying out until late at night. I was concerned because it's not typical behavior for her. When I would question her being out so much she would get mad at me, and then she finally said one night last week that she needed me to give her space for a while so she could figure out what she wants. She told me that she doesn't know if we're meant to be.

I've tried my best to keep away from her, but it's not easy. I find myself instinctually calling her. I'm worried that I'm gonna lose her. Since we've been apart she's been out at bars every night! Even on weeknights when she has to work the next morning. I talked to her mother about it (they run a business together) and she said that she has not been acting like herself, and has been distant and short tempered. What the hell is going on?? I stopped by her house last Sunday and she seemed genuinely happy to see me and she laid in my arms and hugged me and kissed me and then suddenly told me I had to leave because I'm not being fair by coming over. I felt good when I left because it seemed like she missed me and seeing me made her realize it, but I stopped by again a few days later (with the excuse that I had to pick up some things of mine) and she got mad and told me to leave her alone and that I'm pushing her farther away. I don't know what kind of advice anyone can give me, but I'm lost. This is the girl I thought I was gonna marry and grow old with. Now I'm not sure. Do you think she'll miss me and realize how special what we had was if I leave her alone?