[blackdiamond28]

Here's my situation in a nutshell:

My boyfriend and I have been together almost 2 years and we have been living together for a year. He is sweet, kind, has a big ego though but we both have faults that we were trying to work out because we love each other. Now be as though the summer time as come around I have been noticing a change in his pattern and behavior all of a sudden. Now he comes in late like 5 am and he lies about where he has been and says when he is caught"I did not want you to get mad" Bull**** because regardless if I get mad or not youwoudl still call out of common courtesy so I would not worry.

Now the real issue at hand. My boyfriends has a circle of friends that he is around and they go out often but in this circle includes young ladies that often come and go in their little group. But this one girl named SHEREE is around all the time. Now I met her once at a club that my boyfriends bestfriend DJ's at her and my man danced which was cool BUT I foubd out that she hangs around my bofriends friend and spends the night at his house and HIS own girlfriends does not even know about it. That let me know that she is a sneaky bitch! Now I looked in my man's cell phone one day while he was in the shower and I saw her number and called her and she claimed it was innocent and my man claimed after that he erased her number out of his phone. NOW weeks later he is acting funny again. when he leaves his phone out on the dress he walks back and forth by his phone looking at it on the sneak tip and LAST NIGHT was the killer. I was up in the bedroom and he was down stairs and he came up to ask me the dumbest thing." what movie am I watching" just to sneakily look over at his phone so when he went down stairs I checked his phone. Come to find out this bastard had the same girl SHEREE number in his phone but as something else. MRS REE..... So now I somehow got the password to his voicemail and now I will be checking during the day to see if I found out anything you know that old saying "you catch more bees with honey" SO I decided NOT to say anything about the situation until I find out more information but this morning I made a statement to him I said Baby I trust you and I want you to know I have no problem with you staying out at 5am as long as you call do you know he got an attitude and gave me the silent treatment all the way to work this morning? seems GUILTY to me. Do this sounds like CHEATING to you?

[Pyrannaste]

To me it sounds like either cheating or being-about-to-cheat.
His being out until 5 in the morning and lying about it several times would be a good enough reason to break up to quite a lot of women.
I think it is very possible that you'll find in his voicemail something you won't like.

the best of luck to you

[pocoestrella]

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Ugh! These kinds of things are so maddening

It sounds to me like your boyfriend is trying to hide something... Ms Ree? OMG how stupid is that!?

First thing here... while it's great for the two of you to do things seperatly from one another... i'm going to tell you that "clubbing" shouldn't be one of them, sorry it's just not a good idea for many reasons... you know what most people are there for and that's a lot of temtation I just don't know if any relationship needs...

Secondly... your boyfriend telling you things like he just didn't want you to be mad... well I guess I would wonder what else he doesn't tell you because he knows for real you would be pissed... you know?

I don't know girl... to me he is hiding something and if he hasn't cheated with Ms Ree (puke cough barf) he is thinking about it...

Talk to him without accusing...

Good Luck

[LikkleMissConfused]

Girl you sense it! Thats all that matters. DO NOT HAVE DOUBTS. Go with your instinct.

That was the biggest mistake I made. The guy is a jerk and do you really want someone like that?

Its up to you but I made the mistake of trying to find more proof but the only proof I needed was the fact my heart told me he was messing.

Good luck with your decision.

[kirkyswife]

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Listen, when you catch THEN what are you planning to do? If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck it must be a duck. Save yourself the drama and move on.


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[lexnmike4enomore]

sorry sweetheart, but it does sound like he's cheating or is about to. And you can't say that you have been checking his VM or looking in his phone b/c then he'll say your psycho. But i would do the same thing. Check his phone listen to his calls, do whatever you need to do for closure. Why don't you ever go out with him and his "circle of friends" include yourself or even go out with them once and notice the chemistry between MS REE (lol) and him. if it looks like they have been talking or look comfy w/ eachother, thaN he has been cheating. Good luck and DO WHATEVER YOU HAVE TO DO!!!!

[Fayebelle]

Even if he isn't cheating, he is lying and disrespecting you at every turn. Let hem and Miss Ree have each other. Two snakes like that deserve one another and you don't deserve any of their crap.

[sally1530]

If you have that "gut" feeling hes cheating , he probably is. Look at his internet sites that he browsed, credit card statements and cell phone statements if you need proff...just remember...if you look you might not find that hes innocent... be prepared for the outcome.

[beautiful]

Why are you in this relationship if you do not trust him, have to snoop around and waiting to actually catch him?


This is not about him but all about you! Think about this! Find out the real reason why you behave trhis way and fix it. You can't control him or his actions, he will do what he wants to. You can make a fool out of yourself and look pretty bad by doing what you already doing=destroying your relationship!


Trust, Honesty is the foundation of a healthy relationship.................something you do not have right now!


God Bless@!