Sex during Separation, how does it affect reconciliation?

soooconfused · 2nd June 2004, 11:59 PM

i would love to hear similar stories as to how it was dealt with...My wife and i have been separated since feb 03, almost a year 1/2 now. We always remained close because of our 5 yr old daughter. However we also did our own thing during this 1 1/2 year period. She slept with two people, i slept with 4. We are now talking about trying to work things out....how do we deal with what we have both done during our separation??? Should it even be an issue??? thanks for any feedback.

pitprincess · 3rd June 2004, 5:39 AM

I don't think it should be an issue but thats just me.
You and her if planning on getting back together may need to talk it over. People tend to use things like this as tools when there is an argument later down the road.
I really don't see a reason to fight over it sence you both have had different partners

Good Luck

3rd June 2004, 5:50 AM

I don't think it should be an issue either.

Now, if only one of you had other partners during the separation, it would turn into an issue.

I hope are able to put your pasts behind you and work on getting back together. Good luck!

-Deranged

soooconfused · 3rd June 2004, 5:34 PM

thanks for the replys...she seems to be able to overlook everything i have done, i on the other hand am having a tougher time. I tend to focus on all the physical stuff moreso than anything else (typical of a guy?) and because of that it is driving me nuts thinking about her and these two guys...how do i get these images out of my mind?

UCFKevin · 3rd June 2004, 5:53 PM

Give it time. Nothing you can do but that.

Focus on the good parts of getting her back.

slimmontana · 3rd June 2004, 7:27 PM

I understand exactly how you feel..My girl and I are working on reconciling... she slept with one guy 4 times and its just very hard for me to fathom her being intimate with anyone else..I seem to be having an issue with that...Sometimes it bothers me sometimes it doesn't...Its like how can you let somebody esle inside of you when you love me & you don't love them! I don't even wanna ask her that question and put her through a whole interrogation process.I guess in the end I just have to accept it for what it was.