[stareyes]

ive been between 2 boyfriends for a year now.

#1 was in love with for years before dating. we finally went out for 2 1/2 years, then i broke up with him, for someone else.

#2 been dating him for a year now but still talk to #1 on and off. cant seem to let him go. thik about him everyday but have fallen in love with 2. now i cant decide. been thinkin about it for a year hoping one of them would jus give up on me, so i dont have to hurt anyone, or regret any decisions. i try to think who will be better for me in the future but i just cant decide. help

[CurlyIam]

I say keep 'em! What's the big deal? (joke, baaaaaaaaad joke!)

Easy: imagine yourself without each one of them. See when you hurt less. Then choose.

Don't think you can get out of it without some heartacke. And you're lucky, usually they both leave. So decide quicky, as you're not being fair no neither of them or to yourself!

[stareyes]

#1 is funner and i love his family and we have the same group of friends from high school.

#2 is more attractive and responsible. friends are cool, just not the same as others.


should i consider these things in my decision? if so , which is better? i dont know.
also, i feel a little guilty going back to #1, he knows what is going on and that i have new boyfriend. just scared he will look at me differently (along with his friends) if we get back. he was my first and vice versa.

[stareyes]

bump

[disguy]

Sometimes we get ourselves in situations we can't fix. Because no matter what one of them is gonna be hurting. BF#1 had his chance, so what makes you think that its gonna work out this time if you pick him? As for BF#2 - there must be something that caused you to go back to BF#1. Its clear that you had strong feelings for him and wanna try to work things out. I was with a girl for 4 1/2 years on and off and i had always went back to her. Even though i was currently in another relationship. That went on for years, until i finally had enough of her games. It seemed to me like she was on some sort of power trip. Knowing that she could get me back whenever she wanted. I dunno if this works in your situation, but i would say stick with BF#2 only if you sincerely love him. There's that feeling of caring a lot for someone and thinking that you love him. It all boils down to asking yourself some questions. Because if you don't truely love BF#2 then be fair to him and let him go. Try it with BF#1 again and see what happens. You might be going on a never ending circle. (who knows) But you'll never know unless you try. It also doesn't matter how BF#1 family or your mutual friends look at you. All that matters is that you both love each other. Well this one is very confusing. The ball is in your court. Good luck.