How do I get rid of my bf's ex??? They broke up a little over a year ago, we've been together for 8 months and she's still hanging around!!! She writes all this sappy "I miss you, I love you, Come back to me" stuff to him all the time and constantly hears from her when we're together.

I've tried talking to him about it and for a while he didn't talk to her. He knows how much I hate this situation considering when he goes home, she's there. His family has been friends with her family for several years and in addition to that her family is having some problems so he wants to be there for her.

If I were in her situation I would like to be able to go to him too but I feel like she's holding our relationship back in a lot of ways. I want to tell him that she needs to go but I know its just going to cause a fight. How do I tell him all of this and really make him understand without messing up our relationship at the same time???

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you cant just go breakin up friends thats messed up. Is he cheating on u with her? i know u feel insecure because of what they HAD in the past.

You are his girl now, and u need to be there for him and understand what he is goin through. Let him b there for his friend, its tough i know but you cant act like a jelouse freak, that will chase the guy away.

Be strong and understanding. He will appriciate that a lot more than a bunch of whinning and crying, he already hears enough of it from her. Be the better girlfriend, be down for your man.

You may want to think about the fact that maybe it's not a family problem she is having, but a problem of her own. In relationships it is hard to be honest with someone when you don't know how you feel, or if you know that the one you are with will not understand. It's simple, maybe his loyalty lies with her, and if she asked not to talk to anyone about what she is going through, then he won't. Maybe you should just talk to her and explain how you feel. She probably wouldn't mention to him you did, because she more than likely would feel that you respected their relaionship and your own enough to come to her out of concern.