[SD_Sniper]

When I finish High School, I will join the U.S. Marines (I'm already in a binding contract with them)

Basically I'm afraid of getting into a relationship, then going to the Marines where I'm very aware of the possibility of my getting killed. It is already a burden that family members will be worrying so much about me. I have a Gf and I really don't want to hurt her if I get killed. That could be very traumatic. And I'd never want to do anything like that to her. She tells me she supports my going to the Marines (I believe her). But I don't think she fully understands the risks I'll be taking, or what kind of a life I could give her. (I'd travel often) I love her very much, but I don't think I'll be able to give her the kind of life I feel she deserves.

[shamen]

Have you talked to your gf about the future at all? You say that you are afraid of commitment.... I disagree as you joined the Marines. This is a major one.

When it comes to relationships, you've got to let her know what you want out of this one and you need to find out what she wants too. You're young! She probably is too. Are you thinking that you do want something out of this since you talk so long term in your post...?

You're a bit contradictory.

[disguy]

Its man of you to join the marines and worry about leaving your gf thinking that there is a possibility of dying in battle, but if you think like that then you've already died. Just make the best of things and know that you have a loving, caring, and supporting girlfriend waiting for you to come back home.


Oh yeah be careful out there. Because not only will your girlfriend be traumatized if she lost you, but the things you might experience might do the same to you. Wish you the best and good health.

[SD_Sniper]

Have you talked to your gf about the future at all? You say that you are afraid of commitment.... I disagree as you joined the Marines. This is a major one.

Ok, I guess its not "Commitment" that I'm afraid of. I'm afraid of getting into a relationship, then leaving, possibly getting killed etc. I grew up having never met my father, I know what it does to the mother as well as the children. I think I'm just afraid of doing that.

Its man of you to join the marines and worry about leaving your gf thinking that there is a possibility of dying in battle, but if you think like that then you've already died.

First, Thank you. Second, I disagree. I'm not "thinking" there is a possibility that I may get killed. I Know there is a possibility. (A personal friend of mine recently died in Iraq, He was a US Marine) Personally I don't want to fill the clichéd role of the doomed soldier crying over a picture of his girlfriend. I want to go being fully prepared to do whatever necessary.

Ok, and the biggest one is, I'm not really worried too much at this point. The thing is that I don't think I could give her the life she, or anybody else deserves. Think about it, I'll be gone most of the time, In danger much of that time, I'll be traveling often and the list goes on.

The advice I seek is whether or not I should get into a serious relationship, and worry later, or if I should hold off a bit until I'm out of the service and better able to plan where my life is going.

but if you think like that then you've already died.

Sure is hot up here in SD........

[shamen]

Well, if you don't have a gf now, this might not be the best time to "get one." This is the time that you need to concentrate on yourself and your skills as a soldier. My opinion.

[disguy]

The advice I seek is whether or not I should get into a serious relationship, and worry later, or if I should hold off a bit until I'm out of the service and better able to plan where my life is going.

Well ok then why didn't you just say so. lol. only kidding.

Sensing from the way that you feel then no, i would not get myself into a serious relationship knowing that there is that possibility that you will not step back onto american soil. For one it is not fair for your serious gf to worry about you. I would just stay away from getting to involved until you do know that you could have a future with her.

I was thinking that you were already in a serious relationship with your gf. Obviously it is not that serious if your asking this.