[amytct]

My boyfriend and I broke up two weeks ago via the silent treatment (doled out by him). Last weekend he e-mailed me, essentially saying he didn't feel the same way about me and that was why he had treated me so badly the last few months. I deserved better, maybe in time we can still be friends, blah, blah, blah.

The next day he e-mails me and says he owes me a face to face meeting to discuss things. I debated this, but a couple things are screaming no to me.

First, he says he's so busy right now, the earliest he can meet with me is June 13th. What kind of compassion does that show when he wants to drag this out nearly a month, when I hope I'll be feeling better about things, and then sit down with me to tell me all over again he doesn't want to be with me. I don't need that. Secondly, it illustrates a problem that plagued our relationship: he didn't view me as a priority in his life. He's very active in biking and running events, that came first, followed by his job and his family and I was somewhere way down that list. I should also say that we dated for over two years and I never met his family. How weird is that?

Thanks for letting me vent on this dreary morning in the Midwest.

[molly]

my suggestion may have a gamey flavor to it..but i'd say one way for you to establish a tiny bit of control is to reschedule the meeting for another, later time that better suits you. tell him you can't possibly make it the 13th, what about july 6th, or any other such random, later date. it may be that you feel so much better by that time that you actually won't care, even though it seems daunting now. but right now he has all the power and gets to make the rules. i wouldn't let him. tell him its on your terms or nothing at all. just my two cents. good luck. i'm looking out my window in the midwest right now and its all sunshine!

[zoomer]

OH MY GOSH! He wants to "schedule" you in????? You've got to be kidding. I would have immediately told him, naugh, I really don't care what you've got to say....see ya

I can't believe you would "schedule" a breakup... Absolutely Be Way too busy for him. No Time in my schedule soooo...just keep your thoughts to yourself babe! (IS what I would have to tell him) Just unbelievable to me.

KEEP YOUR HEAD UP AND This guy does not deserve you! At all!

[bluechocolate]

You don't need a scheduled meeting to be told your relationship isn't working.

It's pretty obvious.

Wish him a nice life & move on.