Here's my dilema.....

I am with seeing someone and have been for awhile now. I care about him but don't know rather or not I am truly in love with him. I love him in a way but I find myself having feelings for someone else.
This person seems to feel the same for me, we have never spoken of this or "went there" He is always staring at me, touching my arm, smiling constantly at me. When he does this I feel myself "gush" with happiness. I don't feel this way with the person I'm seeing now. This has been going on for sometime now but always from afar. I find myself wanting to see what would happen, I want to let him know I like him too, see what would happen. But I realize that if I did this things would be so complicated not only would I hurt my relationship with the one I am seeing (not sure if I would be relieved or really sad) but to make things worse and more complicated this is his younger brother (younger by a year).

I have real strong feelings for both of them but as I mentioned the younger brother and I only "long" for each other from afar. I try not to lead him on or show that I have any feelings for him but everytime I catch his eye I'm sure he knows. The person I am dating is a jealous jealous person but thankfully has never caught on to my attraction....my question is what should I do?

I know a lot of people will judge me and that's ok no problem but please give me your input I have felt this way for a better part of 6 months or so....

[cowgirl]

I went out with a guy on & off for a couple of years ago and he has a younger brother who whilst I was seeing his brother would always try to hit on me if we were all at a nightclub. I always told him that Im with his brother and it'll never happen. I was never attracted to his brother either.

After a messy 2 years with my guy I went out one night and his younger brother was there and we'd both had too much to drink and you know what happens next. He started calling and next thing I knew is I was seeing the younger brother. He was so different to his brother and we had alot of fun. The funny thing is in the 2 years that I was seeing his brother I never got to meet any of the family so I did it myself when the second time came around of dating someone in that family.

My x is now married. His wife knew of me and had a very hard time excepting me on the scene again even though it wasn't with my x. I think she felt threatened. I ended up seeing his younger brother for about 12 months and we are still the best of mates and I love him to death but as a friend.

My x NEVER found out about it. Although he is now married I know my x and he wouldn't like it one bit. It was very hard for us to go out in public on dates because of someone seeing us and it would get back to my x.
I got to the stage where I didn't care if he found out because he's the past.

If your finding yourself getting feelings for the brother than you'd better sort them out quick smart. It won't be long before your partner picks up on it. His brother should know better if that's how he's feeling. Sounds like your not really sure how you feel about your partner anymore.. Have you been feeling like this before the brother started flirting or only since the brother started flirting???

You've really got to sort out who and what you want. If it's the younger brother you want than expect it to get messy for a while especially if you've been seeing the current brother for a while. Im not sure if any good can come of it and you could end up losing both of them. Remember, blood is thicker than water and blokes stick together.

Good luck!!