[fool4love]

Anyone ever been in a gray area with his/her ex? That's where I'm at. To give you background, he broke up w/ me about 3 months ago. At the time we were having a long distance romance that turned into an emotional rollercoaster b/c of jealousy (on my part) and insecurities (due to the distance) which made me fight with him all the time. So he dumped me, an said he needed space. Now, I'm moving to where he lives (for a graduate program, not him...) and he's happy about this and we're in contact again. We've discussed our issues, and both of us wonder if things could have been different had we not been so far apart. Now that I'm moving so close, he wants to keep in touch, just to see where things lead. I don't want to get hurt again, so I'm not jumping into anything, but I still love him which makes me more confused than ever. That leaves us in the gray area. So, do we just wait and see? Should I continue to move on b/c that is the more healthy option? I have to admit, at this point it would kill me to find out he's w/ someone else or dating. I don't want that to happen before we get a chance to start things over and see if it works. I'm feeling those jealous feelings all over again...and that is NOT healthy!

[LILUIL]

sounds more like you two are gonna start over.

you appear indecisive coz you dont know where he stands at this point. so dont drive yourself bonkers by thinking too much and dont get your hopes up, move over there, go out casually and if he wants anything more serious you'll find out soon enough.

you mentioned he wants to keep in touch, possibly a positive note from his end.