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Alright, here's the story. I broke up with my girlfriend about a month ago. Broke up because she had no time for a relationship. So we decided to be "friends".. yah ok. Well anyway, I called her a couple times to see how she was, she never bothered calling me, so I thought 'screw it, if we're going to be friends, i'm not going to be the one makin all the calls' so I stop contacting her (I heard about this no contact thing). I'll admit, I'm not over her. But here comes my big problem.

We work together, so sometimes I see her. But when I see her, she acts so cold towards me. She barely talks to me. I say hi and bye, I get no reply. She acts as if I'm not even there.... some friend.

I've done nothing to her. Nothing to make her angry or upset. She has no reason to act this way with me. So why does she? Any ideas?

[bluechocolate]

Who knows why she behaves like this & more to the point, who cares? You're not going out with her anymore so she is free to behave in any way she likes.

Of course explanations would be very nice to have but we don't always get them in life, do we?

Having said that here's one possibility for you - when she sees you you remind her of a failure in her life, something that didn't work out. No one likes a daily reminder of something they might have done wrong or screwed up.

Here's another one - she doesn't want to be nice to you because she thinks that she may end up going out with you again & she doesn't want to do that.

Or how about she knows that you still like her & she doesn't want to give you the wrong impression.

Which explanation works for you?

Lot's of people try the "lets just be friends" thing because they think it will let someone down easily. Because they don't necessarily want to tell you the whole truth about why they wanted out & because they want to avoid a confrontation.

You tried the friend thing & it didn't work. If you still had feelings for her it wouldn't have worked anyway. If she can't be polite to you when she sees you then that's her problem. Try to forget about it. And forget about her. There's no reason for you to be impolite, you can still smile & say hello & just keep walking. When the day comes & you're over this girl her behaviour will seem amusing & nothing like a big problem.

[Becks84]

Simply ask her why she feels the need to treat you this way!! Come straight out -- what have you got lose?? Im not even saying you should be nice about it...especially given the way she is treating you. Tell her it's fine if you two are no longer friends, but you demand to know what her problem is...and even aquantinces aren't that cold to each other!

Good luck!

[meanon]

You said you broke up with her. Was it you that ended it? If so, you chose not to be with her. It sounds to me like she went along with your reasons but felt rejected. Now she's trying to tell you she doesn't care what you think of her. If this was true she would not be so rude. She either cares for you still or it's hurt pride.

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sry, guess i said it wrong...

she broke up with me