[sameoldscam]

Ok, i feel i should explain my whole situation, so as any advice can be givin from a totally educated point of view.

I'm 19 years old and currently smoking pot on a daily basis, this has been going on for about a year, although only recently have I had a desire to stop using it.

The two main reasons i want to give up this habbit are 1: money, i'm trying to save up for university next year, and i spend way too much on the drug. 2: health, I'm an asthmatic and the university i'm going to is in a very cold area, so i would like to better my position with health too.

Here is a summary of my week:

Monday-Friday: I get up in the morning and go to work, work goes by... get home from work and sit at my comp (i just got home from work) have a shower, have my tea, then i go out to my friends flat most nights, this i feel is part of the problem. I am pretty sure i have a quite addictive personality. Even if I am tired and I know i am going to be bored at my mates place, i get really irritable if i dont go... so I give in and go. When i'm there, we get stoned, watch some TV or something, then i go home and sleep.

Saturday. I get up in the morning and have a shower, spend most of the day at home on my comp or something, go out at night again and get drunk, and stoned.... sometimes other things, but not regularly enough to be a problem. Usually end up crashing out on the couch.

Sunday. Wake up and either get stoned first thing, or go home, shower, stay at home till the evening, then go out and get stoned.


Then the cycle repeats.

I really need to get out of this horrible pattern, but i depend on weed to sleep, i have terrible problems sleeping when i'm strait....


Can anyone offer and thoughts? questions? advice?

thanks

[tattoomytoe]

first, try not to smoke before bed...if you have to smoke earlier in the evening.

i too need to stop, but i really wanna smoke! but i can go with out it, i just would rather be high.

stop buying it too.

[shamen]

Just stop smoking it. I haven't touched the stuff in years! It got to a point where it just made me paranoid and too introverted.

Stop going over to this guy's house. One of the best ways to get out of an addiction is to stop hanging around people who do the things that you don't want to do.

Maybe eventually you can be friends again, when you are strong enough to say no. I have friends who smoke still and I say no.

The last I knew (but who knows, the theories are always changing) pot was not physically addictive. So you aren't going to go through the shakes or vomit or anything by quitting. It will suck in your head for about a week and you'll still have temptations, but it is definitely doable!

[babydoll]

Alot of people dont consider MJ as an addictive drug, but holy moly, my BF smokes about 10 joints a day, everyday. He smokes even more if he is under stress. The money is a problem $40 every 2 days when we dont have money is alot. He has been like this for 25 years, and can not even go out in public unless he has that joint to lossen him up and cope. We both know that he will never stop, even if he becomes incarcerated, it would be just a temporary break.

From what i read from you is that it is only beginning to be a problem, more or less your doing it because your bored. Get yourself active, get a hobby, get your friend out and play a game of bamantin(spelling) or tennis. If your addiction is setting in this will likely not easy to do, but you have to try. Being addicted to something you dont want to be could be the hardest thing in the world.

And for the record, my boyfriend doesnt even get high anymore, it just a way of life for him, it is in his blood, all it takes is a couple hours and he has to have a joint , and if he dont watch out because the world could be ending.

Stop now while you can

Babydoll

[shamen]

Babydoll, your bf needs some help. That is obviously a very unhealthy way to live a life. Does this bother you? It should!

[babydoll]

Yes it does bother me, it stinks my house, I have to wait around til he has his joint to go anywhere, my son is 12 and I know he must smell, so I know that I will eventually have to explain why BF has to smoke it, countless other reasons why it bothers me.

[shamen]

Have you ever tried to talk to him about it? Sounds like he could use some drug counseling. There's a difference between recreational drug use and drug abuse.

[dreaming4ever]

I need help with this problem too!! My boyfriend smokes joints constantly and it drives me CRAZY!! I want him to quit but he says if he does he'll be a completely different person, all grumpy and ****. I know it's bull**** (at least to me it is) but he says that without pot he wouldn't be as good a person as he is now and blah blah blah. He thinks he'd be a jerk without it. Ugh!! I would do anything for him to quit it. His eyes are always red and he wastes so much money on the **** and it just makes me angry.

The WORST part is that he's SUCH a a nice guy and I would LOVE to marry him and we click so well. But there's NO WAY I would marry a drug addict. No thanks!! I mean, I don't wanna have a kid and be feeding it a bottle and there's my hubby in the corner getting high...i'm sorry there's just a point where you get too old for that kinda thing...and doing it all the time is just GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRr...can you tell i'm angry?? I don't know how to get him to stop...any one have any ideas?

[Olivia_19742004]

No one will stop anything until they're ready to stop. Or they are about to lose something that's more important. Try leaving. Maybe he'll realize that smoking pot isn't as important as you.

I did drugs when I was younger. Fifteen to twenty-three. One day I woke up and said I was done.

[dreaming4ever]

I could never leave him though....he's stubborn, he'd probably just keep doing it saying i'm not accepting him for who he is anyways so why should he be with me?? i dunno...it's confusing but it pisses me off SO MUCH!

[havNfun]

Dear Olivia,
I would not worry about it too much. You are obviously an intelligent person and I think you will grow out of it. I had a few stages like that while in college etc. and eventually pot lost its attractiveness. Eventually it became more boring to be stoned and less "with it" than to have my witts about me. Perhaps you are bored like I was and perhaps you need more stimulation in your life - more to do - something to focus passionately on that is much more enjoyable and rewarding than the escape of pot. I think some smoke pot to escape their own utter bordom. Have you ever considered you may have some ADHD? ADHD conflicted people are much more prone to self-medicate because their brains don't produce adrenaline as generously. So this can produce a constant feeling of bordom or lack of excitement emotionaly... hence many with such a chemical make up will self medicate, or engage in extra-extreme activities in an honest attempt to balance themselves chemically. If a person in this situation lets it go on to long though, then they may medicate to escape the problems that ignoring their condition for so long may have caused. I don't know you and am not saying you are one thing or another, but if you did have any ADHD - it is very treatable and possible to have no need to stay in the haze of being stoned within the non-productive cycle of escaping bordom to more bordom. hugs. good luck.

[ladyangel]

It took my son being arrested for possession and put on drug-tested probation for him to stop. I'm not recommending that for any of you. I'm sorry I don't have any answers. Good luck.