[Thinkalot]

On a quest to solve my own issues of obsessing, insecurity and whatnot, I am once again reading up on OCD and related issues.

I found this good comment:
"Obsessive thinking is an emotional defense that, like all of the various manifestations of codependency, is dysfunctional. Being in our heads - thinking, fantasizing, ruminating - is a defense we adapted in childhood to help us disassociate from the emotional pain we were experiencing. It is dysfunctional because it keeps us focused on the future or the past - we miss out on being alive today. It is dysfunctional because our attempts to escape unpleasant feelings causes us to generate more unpleasant feelings. "

Pretty much sums it up.

The article is actually about Codependency and obsessive thinking:

http://www.suite101.com/article.cfm/...recovery/91371

It may be useful to some of you.

And also this, from the Obsessive Compulsive Foundation:

http://www.ocfoundation.org/ocf1070a.htm

A screening test...

[johan]

It is dysfunctional because it keeps us focused on the future or the past - we miss out on being alive today. It is dysfunctional because our attempts to escape unpleasant feelings causes us to generate more unpleasant feelings. "

Reminds me of someone I know.

[Thinkalot]

LOL! I hope your partner maybe does some reading herself...learning, and trying techniques really does help...even if progress can sometimes be a bit slow.